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What do i do...

By December 25, 2010 - 9:06pm
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this is the first time i ever done something like this... but i dunno who else to turn to...

i have an addiction and it isnt drugs... its swappin pictures of myself wit other girls and masturbaiting on webcam... its tearing me and my girlfriend apart! i hate doing it but i cant stop now! if i dont do it i feel restless and angry like i am having a drug withdrawel... i dunno what to do! it started when i was single and now i cant stop! it is causing me endless problems but what ever i do i cant give up the thrill of swapping/camming! i feel so helpless and alone >.< i dunno if im the only one with summit like this or not... anyone know what i can do!? ANYTHING! im a desperate man...

Thank you :)

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Thank you for your reply...this is very helpful!

It is wonderful that you are recognizing that you have low self-esteem (and it sounds like you DO want to feel better about yourself!), you have a need for adrenaline rush, and are experiencing other addictive-like behaviors. This combination indicates your need for counseling and a support group...you can get better and feel better! It will take some work on your part to learn how to improve your feelings of self-worth, find healthy alternatives to getting an adrenaline rush, and begin putting this all into practice while getting rid of your habitual/unhealthy behaviors. You may even be depressed and using these behaviors to "self medicate", so it is crucial to make an appointment with a Psychologist for a proper diagnosis, in order to begin treatment for your specific conditions.

It will take commitment and effort on your part, but there is help available:
- Certified Sex Therapists are Psychologists with expertise in sexual compulsion or addiction: locate sex therapist or locate psychologist in sexual health.
- Mayo Clinic: Compulsive Sexual Behavior. You can review the treatment options: http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/compulsive-sexual-behavior/DS00144/DSECTION=treatments-and-drugs:

Coping, Treatment and Support:
"Although it may be difficult to overcome compulsive sexual behavior on your own, you can take steps to care for yourself with healthy coping skills while getting professional treatment.
* Stick to your treatment plan. Take medications as directed and attend scheduled therapy sessions. Remember that it can be hard work and that you may have occasional setbacks.
* Educate yourself. Learn about compulsive sexual behavior so that you can better understand its causes and your treatment.
* Discover what drives you. Identify situations, thoughts and feelings that may trigger sexual compulsions so that you can take steps to manage them.
* Avoid risky situations. Don't jeopardize your health or that of others or by putting yourself into situations where you'll be tempted to engage in risky sexual practices.
* Get treatment for substance abuse or other mental health problems. Your addictions, depression, anxiety and stress can feed off each other, leading to a cycle of unhealthy behavior.
* Find healthy outlets. Explore healthy ways to rechannel your sexual compulsions through exercise and recreational activities.
* Practice relaxation and stress management. Try such stress-reduction techniques as meditation, yoga or tai chi.
* Stay focused on your goal. Recovery from compulsive sexual behavior can take time. Keep motivated by keeping your recovery goals in mind and reminding yourself that you can repair damaged relationships, friendships and financial problems."

December 26, 2010 - 8:57am
(reply to Alison Beaver)

Thank you so much! ill have a chat with some sex health people and go from there!

you may of just saved my relationship :)

i am eternally greatful to you! <3

December 26, 2010 - 9:35am

Thanks for your question...let me see if there are some resources or information available for you.

- Can you tell me how old you are (in general: teens, 20s, 30s, etc)?
- Have you made attempts to quit this behavior? If so, how?
- Do you have other interests, joys, hobbies, talents?
- Do you make other harmful behaviors or high-risk lifestyle choices (unprotected sex, alcohol use, history of difficult relationships with family or significant others, self-harm).
- Would you consider yourself overly stressed or unable to cope adequately with life's struggles?
- Do you feel like you have high or low self-esteem?
- Are you aware that some of the girls you are swapping pictures with may be under-age?
- What has your girlfriend said to you about this behavior?
- Why do you want to stop? What is your motivation to stop?
- Why do you NOT want to stop? What is your motivation to continue?
- Are you currently employed or in school full-time?

Sorry for the litany of questions; I want to understand where you are coming from better, and what you are needing.

December 25, 2010 - 9:46pm
(reply to Alison Beaver)

Thank you for your reply :)

i am in my late teens 19
i have made many attempts! i tried deleteing every pic of me n every pic of girls, hiding my webcam and in some cases hurting myself when i do it to trty make me stop!
-im quite good at football and i love my guitar!
-i do all of those except self harm >.< i do alot of free running, Im an adreniline junkie.
-im stressed but i dont think its that bad at the moment
-quite low most of the time
-i alway tried to make sure they were of age >.<
-if it doesnt stop then we are over, which would ruin me beyonde all hell! i love her so much!
-i hate hurting my girlfriend! thats the main reason i want to stop.
-i get such a kick out of doing it. i really love (and hate) the thrill of it all
- i have a part time job at a pet shop :)

thats ok! anything that will help! need anything else?

December 26, 2010 - 6:08am
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