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What's up with him?

By Anonymous January 27, 2014 - 9:10am
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So there's this guy, a year senior to me in the same university.

We started talking online 2 months back. And within a week of chatting, he gave me his number and we started talking on text.

The thing is that I like him. A lot. And he knows.
But he's not the kind of guy that gets into serious relationships.
Time and again he has reminded me that he's never going to fall in love.
He has had purely physical relationships before. In short, not the type that I would go for.

The guy is in my bus that gives us 3 hours of total travel time together. Not once has he spoken to me face to face. He pretends like we don't know each at all. And on text, he tells me all his secrets and everything.

So now that it has been 2 months talking on chat, I told him it's time we spoke face to face.
He has asked me to go out with him twice. He said he'd meet me outside of college.

He puts me off whenever I ask him that why don't you talk to me in college and all.
I have had it with him. He confuses me so much.
What's his problem talking to me? We're so close and we tell each other everything. Why does he pretend like I don't even exist when we're in public?

The way it is now, I've started questioning myself, is he even worth it?
He's not my type. He's treating me wrong. He is everything that I would never go for.
Still I feel that there's something between us.
What should I do?
Should I just let go completely?
Or should I tell him how I feel? I don't want to give him the impression that I'm being a pile on.
I don't want to scare him off. He's already very scared of commitment.

Help. :)

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Hello Anonymous,

I would like to welcome you to the EmpowHER community. Thank you for reaching out to our members for advice. Without a doubt, you will receive a variety of responses.

You nailed it when you ended your post with the words that he is already very scared of commitment. Only he knows why he is afraid to commit and refuses to talk to you in public, face to face.

Anonymous, if this relationship is going no where and making you question yourself, walk away. A lack of interest and no further communication on your end may make this guy find you more of a challenge. If he is interested, he will make the next move. If not, he is not worth your time and effort.


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