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Why do I feel cold when I have sex?

By January 30, 2010 - 5:59pm
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I've had sex with my boyfriend three times. The recent one, my boyfriend said that I feel cold while he is sweating and hot. I also get a dry mouth, but I think that is because I'm panting. Also, my legs start shaking after awhile. I'm worried that there's something wrong with me because when you have sex you're supposed to be warm and hot, but I am cold. I think maybe because I was not wet enough because this time it hurt while the other times it didn't hurt. Am I cold because I'm not turned on enough? I couldn't find any answers online so please help me.

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i am 34 years old. normally my body is very hot such as fever. normally i have always long sex.I have 3 to 4 time sex per week. I always do sex in night to i can sleep. whole night my body normally very hot. specially my butt & legs become sweat. next morning after shower suddenly every thing change. even i take hot shower i start feeling cold to my legs. but after hot shower i feel strange with my belly & body. i feel powerless. so i need to drink water or coffee. as time pass i feel cold & cole but only lower body.
can anybody help me

March 16, 2014 - 6:10am
EmpowHER Guest

hi everybody.
i Am feeling strange, normally i feel cold in cold weather, offcourse if it's snowing outside. but whenever i have sex next morning after shower my legs feeling like freezing. whole legs. i don,t know although my body is very hot. can anybody help me in this situation.

March 15, 2014 - 6:27am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

Hi Anonymous,

One of the reasons why you will have that cold feeling after sex is that your blood vessels (open up) transferring a lot of your core body temp to your extremities and the surface of your skin. Once the act of sex is completed and as you begin to relax, your blood vessels constrict and return a lot of blood back towards your core, along with what ever warmth it carries. Therefore, you have that "brrrr" feeling. This is often the case after an adrenaline rush too. Hope this helps.



March 16, 2014 - 5:07am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

Am 30 years my body temp is turns to cold now I don't have sexuall feelings from 1 month.I don't know what should I do to solve this problem.plz help me

September 27, 2016 - 11:44am
EmpowHER Guest

I know i didn't orgasm but i was still shivering cold afterwards.

October 19, 2013 - 12:36am
EmpowHER Guest

I have the same problem! After sex I am always shaking cold and have to get warm quickly. Normally by putting on layers but my boyfriend and i always like to cuddle afterwards and it's not the same when I'm wrapped up in blankets. I suffer from anaemia and also when cold I can often pass out for up to 20minutes. So scared him the first time it happen but we have kind of got used to it. Cuddle straight after sex without wrapping up as the intense heat from him warms me up.

March 28, 2013 - 12:42pm
EmpowHER Guest

I feel cold (shivering) after sex and i always need to take a very hot shower to remove th cold feeling. I don't know the reason why this happen.

October 25, 2011 - 12:27am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

i do as well! i'm cold almost all the time though, but really cold after sex. i also hyperventilate sometimes as well when we're done, and i can't stop for like 30 minutes. i'm really scared and so is my partner

November 3, 2011 - 9:17am
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