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Why does my boyfriend never what to have sex or talk about the issue?

By Anonymous October 10, 2017 - 9:45pm
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I don’t understand what happened, my boyfriend and I used to have a great sex life. We moved in together very quickly (we never really talked about it, it just happened) about a month and a half after dating. We have been together for 23 months now and living together for 21.5 - in the last 6/ 8 months our sex life is almost non existent, every night he had an excuse as to why not, then he told me he was the problem and would go see a dr (I don’t believe he ever actually went - but said he did and everything was fine) then it got better for maybe 3 weeks and dropped off again, every time I try to discuss it, he completely shuts down, then on the 10 hour car ride back from a wedding we got into a huge fight in the car about 2 hours from home and he said I was the issue, that it just didn’t feel as tight down there anymore so I made it a point to buy kegel weights and use them daily to see if that would make a difference, it did again for 2/3 weeks then again gone - but he talks about sex almost daily and he gets hard all the time while laying in bed with me but when I try he denies me. He knows how bad it makes me feel about myself and I ask him what he needs from me or if there is anything I can change and he just won’t talk to me about it again and keeps saying it is him. He does make me feel so loved emotionally and constantly talks about getting married but physically/ sexually in our relationship I am miserable. He is 32 and I am 28. Please help!

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Hello Anonymous,

Welcome to EmpowHER.

Obviously, you have an issue. But, at least you are talking about it. I am not a couple's counselor, but suggest you seek the help of one.


October 11, 2017 - 8:10am
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