why does my boyfriend rather look at porn than sleep with me

we are going on our 3 year anniversary, and I'm already one foot out the door, I have real men who desire to be with me and beg me to call them, ( so I know i still have it) while i'm with the man I love who is no longer interested in making love to me. Firstly I knew he watched porn but I thought it was because he was single, now he watches it for hours per day wanking twice a day. His underwear is always full of seamen as if he's been having a lot of sex, it's GROSS, he even shoots it all over the couch blanket MY COUCH BLANKET, Yet He still calls me pet names, and may reach over to give me a dry kiss but that is as far as it gets. we went from having sex 2 times a day to 2 times a month to now 3 months of no sex. He will be 40 years old in a couple of months, it's sad because I have decided to start pulling myself away, not doing for him the things I use to do to help keep him comfortable from working, he never had to do for himself at home cause I did it all for him, NO MORE. I use to have earth shattering orgasms, any man would be proud of, I take very good care of my private area to ashore it is taught and in excellent shape. But I refuse to live my life being rejected specially when I take very good care of myself. Here within the next 40 minutes he will be expecting me to bring him his lunch to work like I always have done, but I will not be showing up! I'm just going to pretend like he does, pretend I cared but I forget to care today, I forget to take care of him today, since he has forgotten to take care of me for the past 3 months. So he's about to start receiving his medicine, Dont keep taking care of your man's needs when he never takes care of your needs. Just be as aloof about it as he is, OH I FORGOT, BUT I MEANT WELL, sorry you had to take your lunch feeling forgotten and not cared about! might have to start making your own lunch, doing your own laundry and cooking your own dinner- while I'm working on myself for someone new to appreciate

My bf does the same crap. If we ever do have sex he doesn't even get off. I can leave for 5mins and hes already looking at that mess. Help me. What do i do.

Are you kiding, porn is boring, fake acting, girls say the same thing over and over, fake orgasms (from the women anyway) there is something wrong with a man that prefers internet porn to a breathing live woman, seriously those men are looking at the men not the women.

I'm a guy and i can tell you the truth...he is bored with you. Porn never gets boring because its a different girl every night. I am going through something similar with my wife. We havent had sex in months because i look at it as a chore.

Sorry

Hi Anonymous,
There is certainly an addiction to pornogtraphy. There is help for this disease. If, you need additional informational, please let me know if you need additional information

I went through the same thing with my boyfriend of a year, don't put up with it. I felt so awful about myself because he never wanted to sleep with me either because of his porn addiction. And that is exactly what it is too...an addiction.
We have been broken up now for about three months and I was really sad at first but it took me only about a week to get over it. I realize now that I was getting over him while we were still dating. Once someone breaks your trust like that, it is very hard for things to return to how they used to be. You and every other girl deserve to be with someone who calls you beautiful and embraces YOUR body, not some fake girl in a porno. Good luck!!!

There are many red flags in this relationship, and it is not the porn that is the most worrisome.

What is a red flag is your boyfriend's reaction to your concern. Saying "whatever" to a loved one's feelings is a sign that he genuinely does not care about your feelings, he changes the subject and he is not being intimate with you.

What type of relationship do you want with a man? You will need to make a decision if this relationship is worth investing in, if he is not equally invested.