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Why does society care?

By Anonymous July 22, 2009 - 12:46pm
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Three months ago, I turned 41 and I still feel very young and energetic. In fact, I am very slim, toned and fit; more so than when I was in my 20's and 30's. I look quite young and guys in their 20's ask me out, though I rarely say yes. I get very annoyed when people find out how old I am and then immediately proceed to be amazed and shocked, as if I were old. I think that 41 is still young and refuse to believe that it is all downhill from here. I see my life getting better and my body getting fitter and more supple. I am very happy and though single, have lots of possibilities. I have no kids and don't really want any and people are also surprised by this.

Why does society perceive 41 as being "old"? Why are people not expected to look good at this age?
I have friends who feel all washed up and I feel like a teenager. To be honest, most of them have children and have let themselves go a little, as their priorites have changed. They live more for their kids than for themselves. Some of them even use their kids pics rather than their own as a profile picture on facebook! This is all fine but maybe it makes them feel older?
Anyhow, I want to stop caring about what society thinks! How can I train myself to do this. I do NOT accept that a 22 year old woman is automatically "better", as she is younger, I also feel that life is what you make of it and any of us can be what we want to be. I saw a photo of a 70 year old woman doing yoga. She was so supple and bendy! Why do people convince themselves that they can no longer dance or sing or become great artists past a certain age? Why can't 41 be seen as young?
I am thinking of no longer having Birthdays, not because of my age but because of how people change their attitudes when they find out how old I am!!! From now on, I may just say that I am somewhere between 20 and 50!

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Hi there! It sounds like you just need to let go. Forget what "society" thinks. Age is so relative anyway, and I think most people realize this. As more and more of our boomer population are entering their later years, the 40's and 50's will seem a lot younger than perceived in the past by a lot of people. (Don't they say that 40 is the new 30??)

I'll be turning 44 in the not too distant future and I'm proud to say my age out loud. I feel like I've earned every one of those years, and I'm grateful for my health and how good I feel. I'm always really flattered when people are surprised by my age.

When people ask you how old you are and then are amazed at your age, why do you feel annoyed?

July 22, 2009 - 1:40pm
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