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Why doesn't he want sex anymore?

By December 20, 2011 - 2:40pm
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I've been with my guy for about 6 months. We both adore eachother and think the world of each other. We started having sex about 2 months ago and everything was going fine. We did it for the obvious reasons but also to make our relationship more intimate and to feel closer to each other. We are in a long distance relationship and see each other only around 2 times per month. Recently, we will start being intimate and begin having sex when it's like all of his drive just dissapears. I have asked him If I'm doing anything wrong and he says no and I know that he would tell me if I was. He just doesn't have an interest in it anymore. He won't even talk about it while we're apart. He says that It's because he doesn't want it to mess anything up but that just doesn't add up to me. Why would he go so far as to let himself begin to have sex with me and just turn off? I feel confused by this but I don't want to put pressure on him to do it just to shut me up. I'm not going to leave what we have and getting a new boyfriend is out of the question. I just want answers and I feel like he won't talk to me.

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Honestly, your boyfriend is the only person who has the answer. If he is unwilling to say more about the matter, there is nothing that you can do.

You cannot force the answer out of him. Only he knows what he means by not wanting to mess anything up.

Maybe, he has a medical condition, such as erectile dysfunction, that is impeding his sexual performance.

With time and patience, he may feel comfortable talking to you about the underlying cause.


December 20, 2011 - 5:13pm
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