Why doesn't my boyfriend want me?

girl i feel ya, it does get old. Ill be standing in the bathroom naked and he wont say anything, sometimes he will say something like boobies!!! really? i do always want to tell him to grow up. idk why he is still trying to be my age. he acts like he dont even need it. other than that though we have a really great relationship. but id like to have a sex life.

guitargirl,
I have the EXACT same issue going on at my house. Its getting really old and fast. I'm 34 he's a real immature 37. It makes me feel ugly and unattractive and I'm not either. I hate the way the whold situation makes me feel. I don't see things in this area ever getting any better. Iove him so much but i'm starting to ask myself if i can deal with this forever.
I'm sad.

No, we haven't ever really talked about him going to go see a doctor. if i bring it up he would probaly be embarrassed by it. He isn't very happy with his downstairs area. and i always try to boost his ego. And i do love him. Whenever i try to think about leaving some how i can't force myself to do it. I don't know how to even appoarch him. I usually just let it go. And enjoy when he does finally want to do something. It's just i wish he would still do something to me even if he dont want to get off.. And i have caught him watching porn before. and admits he don't. but i already know he has. So i know he does get Horny and actually likes sex i guess.... maybe he just isnt attracted to me anymore

What do you mean you don't know if you should get out there and explore? Do you mean end this relationship and see if the grass is greener on the other side? That's entirely up to you. If you don't love him and aren't willing to work at this anymore then it seems like that's the road you'll take.

Have you considered asking him to rule out any possibility of a health issue or hormones being the cause of his low libido-- before you decide to leave him? I get the inclination that there is a low-libido issue here if this is something that happens with every relationship.

Good Luck,

Rosa

Well the thing is he isnt really mature. i feel im more mature than he is. when i try to bring us up all he does is tell me babe stop. like our convosations go no where anymore. where else in the beginning all we did was talk and if we had a problem we would work through it. and i miss them days. even if he dont wana have sex he wont try to meet my needs. i just dont know if i should get out there and explore. i lost my viginity to him.

Hi guitargirl8,

Thanks for your question and welcome to EmpowHer! The truth is that there are many different reasons why men don't want to have as much sex as we think they would. One reason affecting your relationship could be the fact that he is older than you- you're 20 years old so I would venture to say that you are probably wanting to explore your sexuality with him and he's just not as into it as you are because he's been there/done that at his mature age of 31. Now, if all of his relationships have ended due to his lack of sex drive then there may be an underlying health condition going on and if he's open for it, a simple doctor's visit can rule this out. It also doesn't help that he lives a sedentary lifestyle.

Here's some more help for you:
https://www.empowher.com/community/ask/why-doesnt-my-boyfriend-want-have-sex-me-anymore

https://www.empowher.com/community/ask/why-doesnt-my-boyfriend-want-have-sex-me-6

Hope this helps,

Rosa