The staggering statistics - foreclosures are up 121%. One out of every 171 homes has received a notice of foreclosure. We are in a shocking housing crisis due to shoddy lenders with even shoddier business practices and greedy consumers who wanted more than they could afford. The rest of us can't sell our homes, sell at a huge loss or have seen our property values decline.
I read a sad story today about a woman who committed suicide on the day her home foreclosed. Carlene Balderrama, a 53-year-old wife and mother, shot herself to death in her home, after notifying her mortgage company of her intent and asking that they be more compassionate with her widower husband than they had been with her.
The mortgage company contacted the police who arrived at the house to find her already dead.
Apparently the home was to be auctioned off that day, and by some accounts, potential buyers were beginning to line up.
Balderrama's suicide note to her family asked them to use her insurance money to pay off the house.
I'm not sure what to make of this story. I would think a lot more was going on with this women to cause her suicide. A woman's home may indeed be her castle but to leave a husband and children to pick up the pieces lends credibility to the feeling that she had even bigger problems.
And even if her insurance paid off the home - would her family want to stay in the same home that triggered her suicide?
Home ownership and financial burdens are affecting women more and more. The days of waiting to get married to own a home with a husband are long gone. Women are buying property like never before, in their 20s and 30s, regardless of familial status. Hurray for us. But now we face the same pressures. We too, are losing our homes, losing our homes value or finding that we're desperate for room-mates or second jobs to pay the mortgage.
Who knows what happened with the Balderrama household. They had filed bankruptcy three times in the past half dozen years so they clearly had long-standing financial woes and were not capable of stabilizing themselves from an economic standpoint. Did they buy too much house? Was it greed? Or were they duped into a false sense of security by mortgage companies who saw big interest payouts dangling before them?
Whatever the case, Mrs. Balderrama was unable to cope and saw suicide as her only option. Now her life is over and life as they knew it is permanently over for her family. And all over a house? Probably not. Maybe it was the proverbial straw. Maybe it was a culmination of that and unknown mental health problems that remained undiagnosed and untreated. But she is gone and the house remains.
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http://www.boston.com/news/local/breaking_news/2008/07/facing_foreclos.html
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What's happening now brings back memories of the Savings & Loan industry collapse back in the the 1980's, followed by the domino effect caused by the Enron collapse, followed by the domino effect caused by 9/11/01. Another very sad element of the Carlene Balderrama story is that insurance companies don't pay on suicides, or at least make the beneficiaries wait for 2 years, potentially making the financial trauma even worse for her family.
The fact of the matter is that most people are simply not financially savvy enough. I say this because I spent nearly 20 years in the investment banking industry and saw first hand that the average "Joe" out there never learned, or bothered to learn, financial responsibility, and women are particularly vulnerable to financial disaster. My generation and younger are too spending oriented, not saving oriented. Our parents (or grandparents) were the last generation to have survived the stock market crash of 1929, the Great Depression and WWII. Why baby boomers didn't learn from history is perplexing. I taught my kids to create an emergency fund; but, trying to get them to save for their retirement, yeh right! They think they're too young.
There is so much finger-pointing in the lending crisis that there's a vicious circle. I feel sorry for this woman's family. I personally knew a woman who committed suicide for a similar situation. She used to be my next door neighbor.
July 25, 2008 - 7:00pmThis Comment