I got with this "amazing" guy late last year , till April this year , everything g was going great , till he cheated and I determined to "make" it work , stayed in the relationship . Now , at this point , I started going out a bit more , getting more and more drunk , more and more angry at life . At first , without noticing , but , then , I started talking to a bunch of other guys , to try and forget and nd get over the initial bf . The attention seemed to help , made me feel like I still got it , but , I got tired of it . Now , I didn't sleep with any of these men, but , I can't lie .. I almost wanted to .so then , this particular guy , let's call him Mr. D caught my attention, started talking , hang out .. almost became serious , until , he started ignoring me . Almost , ghosting me to some point . So , I collected myself and walked away , rather I thought I collected myself and walked away . I spent days , still spend days thinking about the what ifs , what if I didn't meet these people , what if I lisented to that one friend who cut ties with me the moment I started dating my now ex bf ? What if I stood up , after all this feeling of being needy for a man to be by my side , and actually moved on ? What if I didn't drink as much and make poor decisions? What if I could juSt disappear and come back when everything has cooled down ? What if all this being friendly towards people is as way of me saying to my self that I'm dependant on human approval ? I really don't know what to think at this point. Help ?
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Hello Anon,
Thank you for sharing your feelings today on EmpowHer.
The thing I have come to realize over the years is, it's pointless to dwell on mistakes we have made or bad decisions or failed relationships, etc. It's best to learn from the experience and move on. Not easy! Try not to weigh yourself down with regrets and what ifs. Live in the now. Not being in a relationship is ok! It may be that all you need is some time to sort things out. I hope so! If not, there is no shame is seeking counseling.
Best of luck to you,
November 27, 2016 - 11:54amHelena
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