The process of adoption in my case is not that smooth, but I can say I learned so many things about it. There are times that I got frustrated along the way, but focusing on the reason why I want to adopt a child gives me the extra push all the time.
The process took time for me because I want to get the right fit for me and for the child mostly. I prepared everything – from looking for the most suitable and the best adopting agency, getting help from an adoption attorney, my financial capacity, the new home for the child and much more.
Some people asked me how I was able to earn the trust of my newly adopted son. I answer them this: you have to learn the love language of the other person. You have to speak his love language. That’s how relationships grow and a mother-son relationship is included. Reading parenting books can help; they can serve as guide, but you have to come up with your own way of parenting. Don’t play by the books instead you have to discover his/her language of love. It may take time. It may take you outside of our comfort zone. It may require so much effort on your part, but trust me in this – once you learn to love the person with his/her love language, they will also love you back on your own language and this is what happening to me and my son now.
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