My husband has told me for the past 23 years that he does not masturbate alone, only with me. He just admitted he's been masturbating all along! I feel he lied to me, he cheated in a way and he definitely lost my trust! Our relationship is all messed upright now. Is anyone else bothered by the fact that their husband masturbates?
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Hi Laura! I know this post is a few months old so who knows if you'll even see it, but I wanted to reply. I totally know how you feel. I just caught my husband masturbating this morning. He usually has the house to himself in the early mornings while the kids and I are asleep. (He gets up early for work). This morning I had to go pee. I came into the living room to say Goodbye, and caught him standing in the dining room with his pants down, wiping up his mess. I think what bothers me the most is this: he was doing it out in the open. Our children could've walked out and saw him. And 2nd, he had his phone out, as if he was looking a porn or something. That part is completely inexcusable to me. I get that mastrbating is normal, and it shouldn't upset me, but it does. You're not alone Laura. As much as it's a very normal part of life, I just can't help that it bothers me...
July 19, 2016 - 7:51amDid you ask for any details? Do you know how often he does it? Or whether or not he uses porn to assist? I think that plays a part...
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Hi KKs mommy. I get notifications when anyone responds to my post and I read about ur situation. Wow, I can't believe ur husband masturbated out in the open like that! It would scar your kids for life if they walked In n that. I would have wondered why he didnt fool around with me before he left the bed. My husband told me he sometimes watches porn when I'm not home and masturbates because I'm not there to have sex with. don't accept that! I know masturbating is supposed to be a natural and normal part of life but I don't like that. I'm a stay at home wife who can go around masturbatng all day while my husband is at work but I don't. But I really think it wouldn't bother him if I did. I wish it would tho because it sure does bother me! Knowing how much it bothers me should be enough of a reason for my husband not to masturbate Why would he want to hurt me? I guess he doesn't think of that when he's doing his thing. The funny part of it is my husband knows I like to watch him masturbate so we can fantasize, improvise, play together and I can make it pleasurable for Him. So why does he still do it alone? It gets me so frustrated because there is nothing I can do to be good enough and I'm willing to do anything to make him desire me sometimes I feel like he only has sex with me out of primal necessity and not desire. It hurts!
August 4, 2016 - 1:43pmThis Comment
Hello and thank you for choosing EmpowHer,
September 13, 2015 - 9:25pmI can understand why you feel betrayed that he lied to you.
However, you should be aware that most men whether dating or in a committed relationship masturbate throughout their lives. This is not limited to men either. Many women do as well.
Although he did lie to you and that is inexcusable, perhaps you should try to understand that masturbating alone is normal for many people in relationships.
Faith
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He also knows it turns me on to watch him masturbate and he watches me. We have fun together and I'm up to doing anything in anyway whenever he wants it!
September 13, 2015 - 5:48pmThis Comment