As I was driving to work yesterday morning, I got the call from my mom that my stepdad, Bud Rutledge, had just died from a stroke. His death was not unexpected, as he'd courageously fought lung cancer for about the past year and a half. But it was still a shock, and especially considering the timing of it. Yesterday also happened to be the 25th anniversary of my brother's death. I figure there's got to be something karmic in our family about the date March 23. In any case, my mom felt that the odd timing signified that Bud and my brother Corbin are together and taking care of each other. On Friday we're going to bury Bud right next to Corbin's grave in Oklahoma City.
I got married just last Friday the 20th. One of the last things Bud said before he died was that he was glad that he didn't die on my wedding day. He was definitely one of the sweetest, most thoughtful men I've ever known. And he dearly loved my mom. I'm so fortunate to have had him in my life, although it was for only a brief few years. I've been proud to call him stepdad, would have been proud to call him dad, and know that somehow, in some realm, he's hanging with Corbin right now, and Corbin's pretty proud too.
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Thanks so much for your kind thoughts, everyone. We made it through the funeral, and it was a beautiful service -- very fitting tribute to such a great man. I had a good trip to Oklahoma City, albeit an emotional one, and my kids and I met a ton of step-cousins that we didn't even know we had.
I really appreciate all of you for being there with your awesome words of support!!
March 28, 2009 - 10:13pmThis Comment
Kristin,
Thanks for sharing your story; it is bittersweet, as you've lost someone close to you, but have been fortunate to have such a wonderful person in your life. Best wishes on your future together with your new hubby!
March 27, 2009 - 12:18pmThis Comment
I'm so sorry to hear about your stepdad. How fortunate you were to have had him in your life.
March 25, 2009 - 7:57pmThis Comment
Kristin, what a sweet and sad rollercoaster you were on in the last week. You must be feeling a combination of emotions constantly.
First of all, congratulations on your marriage, you fabulous newlywed you! Here's hoping it was a wonderful day just filled with happiness, family and friends that you will remember always.
And second, condolences on the loss of your stepdad. It sounds like he was a wonderful man, and that your family will miss him terribly. Indeed, March 23 seems to be a bit of a special passage day for your family, and I'm glad there's some comfort there.
Take care this week, and know that Bud is so happy at your joy.
March 25, 2009 - 9:02amThis Comment