Are the days of romance long gone once the I’dos are said and the stork swoops in? As our relationships get more complex and our children take center stage, do we ultimately hang up our courtship hats? Long stem roses that once were delivered for no reason at all, now only arrive on anniversaries and birthdays and visits to the lingerie department are for comfy flannel pajamas not Chantilly lace. Here are a few tips on how to get out of your romantic rut:
Romantic Bedroom Ideas-Your Bedroom is a Place to Reconnect.
-Your bedroom is not your office. Bills have no business being in your business. If you take your iPad, laptop and phone to bed, your love life is in desperate need of a digital cleanse. There are more stress-relieving ways to unwind other than Facebook! Go to bed device-free.
-Pick a no-TV night. I wouldn’t suggest nixing Monday night football, but ditch the remote and focus your attention back on each other.
-Sensual Scents. Toss an herbal sachet in your lingerie/pajama drawer. Scents such as lilac, rose and jasmine are aphrodisiacs and will heighten both your senses. Making spritzing your bed with linen spray a part of your bedtime ritual.
-Need some inspiration? A sultry romance novel can help you brush up on your skills.
***here’s a tip for the guys or handy housewife. Set the stage for romance with mood lighting. You can easily transform bright lights with a trip to the hardware store for a dimmer switch. They’re a cinch to install. Not handy with tools? A simple switch from LED to 3-way light bulbs will do the trick.
Take back the date night! Role Reversal is the New Trend in Date Night Planning.
If women can be CEO’s of major companies, who says we can’t we plan date nights?
Create Intimacy: Are you secretly longing for a sensual overnight getaway? Create a passion filled night at a local resort. I have a friend who surprised her hubby with a hotel suite complete with rose petals, champagne and in-room couples massages.
Memory Lane: Ever wish you could go back in time to when you first fell in love? Plan a date night to an old and familiar place and recreate your love story. Old feelings will resurface as you reminisce about your hopes, dreams and fears.
Adventure brings you closer together: If your once fiery relationship is well a bit ho-hum, take a walk on the wild side and plan an extreme and outrageous date. Adrenaline alone from say skydiving will put the spark back in your relationship.
Combo-Date: Pair both of your interests in one date. Tee it up on the golf course followed by a pedicure for two.
With a little creativity and a little effort, you can spice up your love life!