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6 Lies Your Depression is Telling You

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Depression is a liar. If everything looks different when you are depressed, the decreased efficacy of your frontal lobe may have something to do with it.

You're not just feeling depressed, you are thinking depressed. You may make decisions that would not normally make sense to you. Your outlook on the world is distorted by depression.

Lee H. Coleman, Ph.D., ABPP, a clinical psychologist and assistant director and director of training at the California Institute of Technology’s student counseling center and author of the book "Depression: A Guide for the Newly Diagnosed," said in an article on Psychcentral.com that cognitive distortions which accompany depression might be an even bigger problem than the depressed mood.

Deborah Serani, PsyD, author of the books "Living with Depression" and "Depression and Your Child," said in an article on Psychologytoday.com that the top cognitive distortions relate to poor problem solving, and feelings of hopelessness and helplessness.

She said that the frontal lobe controls problem-solving and reasoning, as well as the ability to set and achieve healthy goals. Depression knocks the skids out from under all of these abilities and leaves us in a sorry heap.

Depressed people may find themselves making decisions that are self-destructive, creating more problems than they solve. They are in effect believing lies that are a direct result of depression.

They may not ask friends or professionals for help, though they need it. They may stop eating, or they may eat far too much. They may drink too much, or drive too fast. They may not bother with medication that they need.

Here are just a few of the lies depression may be telling you:

1) Nothing I do will make any difference.

Thinking like this leads only to more of the same, in a seemingly neverending spiral of despair. But it isn't true.

So do something that makes a difference. It doesn't have to be something big. Maybe a shower. That may seem too big, but if you can drag yourself into the bathroom, get out of your clothes, turn on the water and throw yourself in, you're halfway there.

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EmpowHER Guest

I know how it feels to be depressed, at one point I tried killing myself twice in one week :( If you are stressed I would highly recommend everybody learn how to meditate because ever since I have started I have never been happier. I have improved my life drastically. I have an overall sense of peace with myself and the world. My stress levels have gone to an all time low and It even helps me with my anxiety and panic attacks.

If you want to learn how to meditate I suggest you read this story.


October 18, 2015 - 1:02pm

Depression is a DAILY struggle; it takes hard work to overcome it but there is hope. For anyone suffering from depression, I recommend the http://destroydepression.com/info.html system. Written by James Gordon, a former depression & PTSD sufferer, it teaches 7 natural steps which he used to cure his own depression and has helped thousands.

October 18, 2015 - 8:54am
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