Before diving immediately into online dating after the demise of a past relationship, you need to take an online dating – or for that matter any kind of dating – inventory. You need to be emotionally and mentally prepared for the next relationship. There are players and scammers out there who are only interested in conquests and money. But when you are serious about finding that Mr. Right or at least the Mr. Right for You, you really need to make sure you’re ready.
You may think you’re ready. Your past Mr. Right turned out not to be or perhaps you’re a widow. But are you really? Not taking a few moments to evaluate why you are even considering looking for another guy, what kind of guy you’re looking for, and what you expect from a relationship can make the difference between establishing a healthy relationship and not.
Beware of Rebounds
This one is rather obvious, but always bears mention. Beware of the desire to find another guy, just to get back at the past one. An attitude of revenge or the desire to incite jealousy is not a healthy base for a new relationship.
Your main reason for starting to date should be to find companionship for you, not to exact revenge on someone else.
Rebounding doesn’t mean you no longer have any feelings at all when you think of your ex or spouse who has passed on. In most situations, you will always have feelings for them. But be careful that you’re not looking to get connected with another guy who will replace your last partner. The new guy should not “complete” you. He should “contribute” to who you are, but you should reach a point where you are also looking to contribute to who he is. If all you’re looking for is for what he can give you, you’re not ready.
Time to Settle
In any situation where there has been a break up of a relationship, whether through break up, divorce, or death, give yourself time to settle into a new life.