It's not that fighting shouldn't occur, it has to, it's part of life, living with someone, and loving someone. However, one of the common notions of emotional disturbance is an unstable mood; that is to say, your mood fluctuates so regularly and frequently as to be disturbing to your life and to others around you.
While you may not be emotionally disturbed, you may be shocked to realize you can work even harder to stabilize your mood. In the name of stabilizing your relationship with your family, friends and loved ones, you might want to pursue this path. The more stable your mood, the more stable your relationships and, ultimately, your life will be.
So how do we go about this? Many articles have been written about the link between eating well, exercise, and mood stability. The truth is, piling sugar and processed foods into our systems will lead to a myriad of health problems, not the least of which are psychological health problems, including depression, valleys and peaks in outlook (almost a sense of being bipolar) and restlessness. By cleaning up our diet and doing regular exercise daily, we can begin to even out our psychological profile, experience less of a labile or constantly changing affect, and have a more mature, stable approach to our problems.
Road rage alone can make a car ride so uncomfortable for some people that if their significant other is prone to doing this, they will shut down emotionally when in the car, making car rides something to dread, and affecting everything in the relationship.
So here's an outline for smoothing out your mood and creating stability:
* Limit or eliminate processed foods. The spiking of mood and the subsequent let down creates a vicious cycle of happiness, mania, hyperactivity, aggression and depression/exhaustion.
* Limit or eliminate caffeinated beverages. Caffeine has a similar effect as sugar and white flour, bringing you up and letting you down.
* Get regular exercise. This doesn't have to mean that you work out until you are spent every day.