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We are not having sex any more

By May 16, 2012 - 8:06am

Right now I am at my breaking point. My fiance and I have been together for 8 years now and our sex life has now become a problem. We went from having sex all the time 4 and 5 times a day to me basically having to take it if I want to have sex. I mean he was my high school sweet heart and at the time we got together I was very inexperienced but now I have become more open with my self and what I like and don't like. I have even been doing things now that I wasn't doing before to spice the relationship up but it seems like its not working. Then it doesn't help that we have a 5 year old who is here all the time. But even when I send our son to my mothers house for the weekend because I think that we can get busy it doesn't happen. And I end up getting very angry because I want to have sex and he always gives me an excuse to why we can't. Me getting angry doesn't help either because then we are mad at each other and I don't feel that he even has a reason to be mad at me. Like for example last night I wanted to give him a blow job and have some sex and he tells me that he is tired. Not sleepy tired but his body was tired. So I made the suggestion well why don't you lay on you back and let me do all the work and he still told me no. I feel like I'm begging for sex all the time and I'm not being satisfied. I mean my sex drive has picked up drastically since I have been off of the birth control but I feel that shouldn't be a reason to not want to have sex. And I believe it makes me madder because he makes it seem like we are always having sex when his friends are around but in reality we are not. Its gotten to the point where I think I need a girlfriend or something to satisfy me because he isn't trying to. Please help me!!!!!

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By Anonymous May 17, 2012 - 3:26pm
Hi Blckchrry87, Welcome to EmpowHER. Thanks for sharing your story. It might be good to let him know how you feel and suggest seeing a doctor to check his levels of hormones. To make sure he doesn't have a low libido. Depression, stress, anxiety can be a cause to have a low sex drive. Hope here you can get support and answers from others going through the same situation. https://www.empowher.com/sex-amp-relationships/content/audio-dr-marty-kl... Best, DaisyMay 17, 2012 - 3:26pm

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