Candace describes how she is emotionally affected by hair loss.
Until I wrote my book, which was very cathartic for me because I found that there are 30 million other women out there like me, one in four, hair loss consumed my day. A rainy day, a windy day was my worst enemy. It’s a blow to your self-esteem. You have to find other things that you can hold on to as you enter what I call the new normal of living with hair loss.
So it’s very difficult. My poor husband, I’d have my hair all fixed and he would do the loving gesture of running his hand through my hair and I would just about kill him because I had just gotten everything in place so that he wouldn’t notice that my hair is thinning. So you are always thinking about it. You are always thinking that people are looking at it.
I was in the gym one day and I noticed a bright spotlight over the treadmill and I had to move. Now that’s very self-centered of me to think that everybody in that gym was looking at my hair. They were probably more thinking my hips were too big but, you know, other than that, that’s what you think of. You know, it’s a windy day, it’s a rainy day, the light is overhead, I have to move; I have to not sit there.
So it does, it affects the way you feel. It’s difficult to get to a point where you say, “Okay, I am more than my hair loss,” but that is my hope for my 30 million sisters out there is that we can get to the point where we can say, “We are more than our hair loss,” and that hair loss can be acceptable, as acceptable for women as it is for men.