Kim describes how her inability to get help and have support during menopause emotional affected her and affected the relationship with her husband.
I believe it was almost 20 years of going to a variety of doctors and I moved quite frequently so it was different parts of the country. They were kind of equal opportunity offenders, where no doctor really took this seriously.
One or two offered me the male form of Viagra or offered me testosterone off label, but nobody really took a look at all of the medical issues and probably emotional issues that I was facing to really come up with a solution, a holistic solution to my issues.
There really was no kind of support infrastructure available to me to really get this validated or even refute it. So there weren’t women’s groups, there was no Internet community of people experiencing anything similar who were writing or blogging about this. There was basically nowhere to go; very few research papers.
And I think when a doctor looks you in the eye and basically pooh-poohs you, you just shut up and you suck it up and you say, “I guess this is how it is,” regardless of the impact that it has on your marriage or your relationship.