Kim shares how menopause affected her sexual health and the relationship with her husband.
I was recently married. I was only married for four or five months before going through menopause and I had also noticed a cessation in periods and was doing a bit of you know, yay kind of dance like isn’t this great that that’s one last thing to worry about and that was another indication of the menopause, but at the time I really wasn’t catching that. But very quickly, my husband was just appalled that I would, and I had an interest in sex prior to this.
So he was really trying to be very supportive and we were going through the infertility treatments together but over a very short period of time, this got older and older and older and I became less willing to discuss it.
Every time I would try to bring this up with a doctor to say, “I really do have an issue here, sex is so painful that I actually had tears in my eyes and would literally try to hide this from my husband,” the doctors would say any number of things, not the most rude of which was, “Gee, you could have a lot worse things happen to you. Quit whining, a lot of women don’t have a very strong sex drive and kind of get over it,” and it made me feel sick and it made me feel terrible because I felt that if I couldn’t discuss this with my doctor and I was having difficulty discussing this with my husband there was really no one to talk about this with and there really wasn’t a sympathetic ear.