Let them know that you’re going through some intense feelings around holidays like Mother’s Day, and if needed suggest that they give you more space or be accepting of the emotions you may be expressing at this time, Krawiec added.
6) Create your own type of Mother’s Day in honor of your angel baby or child.
This doesn’t even have to land on Mother’s Day, and you can do something as simple as reading a passage in a book that speaks to your situation, or light a candle and write a journal entry expressing your thoughts during this time, Krawiec said.
7) Give yourself time
Make sure to give yourself time for self-care, she added. This includes pampering like getting your nails done, putting your feet up and relaxing, and not doing any additional chores or errands.
8) Channel your pain and emotions.
Find a way to channel what you're going through. For example, Sheri Roaf, mother of three, used blogging as a way to deal with her pain after she lost her 17-month-old son Bennett in November, 2013.
Roaf said in an email that she tends to be reserved when it comes to sharing her feelings, except when she writes. She is able to connect with other grieving parents through writing, which helps her feel less alone, and it has become her outlet.
What are your best ways of coping with the memories of your lost child or children before, during and after Mother’s Day?
Reviewed May 4, 2016
by Michele Blacksberg RN
Edited by Jody Smith
Bindeman, Julie. Email interview. May 3, 2016.
Krawiec, Carrie. Email interview. May 3, 2016.
Roaf, Sheri. Email interview. May 3, 2016.