I’ve written before about people who pretend to have illnesses (often serious) or conditions in order to get attention or profit from others. As our media expands to include social media we are learning of more and more exploiting the kindness of family, family and co-workers. Too often we have read about a person shaving all their body hair (including eyebrows and cutting off their eyelashes) in order to "prove" they are undergoing cancer treatments.
They accept money from family and friends and attend benefits that are done for them through their schools, churches or workplaces. The reasons are varied – greed for money, an insatiable need for attention or for something as mind-blowing as breast implants or exotic vacations. Once caught, these people face criminal charges, as well as the often volatile reactions from those they fooled and stole from. Not only do victims feel robbed of their time and money, but also of a trust factor that’s hard to get back. Fool me once, and all that. More on the topic of feigning serious illness can be read on our busy thread here – you’ll see what a hot topic this has become on EmpowHER: https://www.empowher.com/community/share/faking-it-pretending-have-serious-illness-attention-profit-and-reward
But more common are friends and family who drain us with all their dramas – who has done them wrong, who ticked them off this week and who is hatin’ on their game. (Seriously - that’s not me, they really talk like that.)
From the cousin who is always unfairly confronted by someone at the store (or the mall, restaurant, movies, doctors office, public toilet) to the sister who hates her boyfriend until you agree with her and then you’re the bad guy because she's changed her mind and he’s an angel! And how dare you judge him!
You cringe to ask your co-worker how he’s doing because you’ll be told about his mortgage and his one-legged crazy aunt who wants to move in but his mean wife won’t let her and besides, they’re already fighting about his "designer" live rat collection that has reached the majestic number of 38. And at the end of all this, you feel empty, exhausted and absolutely bled dry.