Mother-in-laws are the source of many jokes and usually do not receive the praise and appreciation they deserve. This year, Mother-in-Law Day will be celebrated on October 24. The tradition began in 2002 to celebrate special in-laws. It is similar to Mother's Day and is promoted by cards, flowers and candy companies.
But along with the holiday was a recently release poll based on the question, “What do you think of your mother-in-law?”
According to the survey, 51 percent of respondents would rather stay home and clean than spend the day with their mothers-in-law. Other alternatives included a gynecologist visit (36 percent), jury duty (30 percent), filing income taxes (28 percent) and root canal (28 percent).
The survey also found that 28 percent of women described their relationships with their mothers-in-law as “terrible” or “bad” and 76 percent of daughters-in-law responding that they would never seek parenting advice from their mothers-in-law.
However, 54 percent felt comfortable leaving their children in the care of their mothers-in-law. A whopping 83 percent said they would never discuss their marriages with their mothers-in-law and only 4 percent would talk about their sex lives.
When given the option to choose a celebrity substitute for their mothers-in-law — which 49 percent said they would not do at all — 17 percent chose Hillary Rodham Clinton, followed by Kris Kardashian Jenner (16 percent), Sarah Palin (9 percent), and Joan Rivers (7 percent).
The study touched a nerve with women on what they “really” think of their mother-in-law. So in the interest of family harmony, here are some tips for spending the upcoming holidays with your mother-in-law.
• Find out what's important to her. Start by talking to your spouse, or directly to his or her mom. You may be able to mitigate any tension simply by finding out what she values and doing your best to keep those things intact.
• Don't assume you know how she feels. "It's very possible your mother-in-law wouldn't mind a bit 'passing the torch' of managing the holiday celebrations, so she could just show up and ENJOY for a change!