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Marriage is the union of two individuals each possessing a different genetic makeup, different life experiences, temperament and personality. This uniquely human partnership connects two partners in a contract that is expected to last “…’till death do us part.” Here are ten tips for a successful marriage.
Acceptance
Reinhold Niebhur wrote, “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can and wisdom to know the difference.” The sentiment of this prayer unlocks one secret to a happy marriage: Calmly come to terms that you will never change your spouse. Love him as he is. Dare to change yourself because you cannot change anyone but yourself. Have the wisdom to know this.
Communication
Communication is a keystone in the foundation of a successful marriage. Verbally express how you are feeling because your spouse cannot read your mind. Listen and observe your spouse. Over time, couples learn a spouse's body language and sense changes in mood. What is not said is as important as what is said.
Keep Love Alive
Make a list of all the things you love about your spouse. When you say, “I love you” tell him why you love him. Try doing this at least once a week. Commit the list to memory or keep it in your wallet or other accessible place. When you get angry with each other, retrieve the list and remember what you love most about him.
Laugh
Laugh together not at each other. Do not let the strain of daily life steal your ability to see and share humor. Demeaning or insulting a spouse under the guise of benign teasing quickly ceases to be funny.
Forgive
We are all human and humans make mistakes, spouses included. In every marriage there will be stressful times. We have the option to forgive a spouse or not. Strive to reach a resolution, swallow your pride, forgive, and see the new day as a fresh beginning.
Choose Your Battles Wisely
Life is short and each day is precious. Let go of insignificant issues. Work through challenges, and there will be many, as a team. Resolve arguments with constructive communication and never go to bed angry. Strive for the wisdom to distinguish important issues from inconsequential matters. Approach each argument with the commitment to resolution not to getting even. Apologize if you are at fault.
Leave the Past Behind
Realize that you cannot change the past but rather can learn from it and not repeat the same mistakes. Reminding a spouse of past failures and disappointments renders no gain and only hinders open and honest communication.
Make Time For Each Other
Set aside time for you and your spouse to reconnect, even have a date night. This is an important tip for a happy marriage once career obligations and children impinge on your time. A date can be a Friday night movie or romantic dinner at home. Put the children to bed, let the answering machine screen incoming phone calls, and cherish the time for just the two of you. Simply talk to each other without any distraction, like the television, for a half hour each night
Never Take Each Other For Granted
As years pass, couple can take each other for granted. Complement each other for things that each of you does well. Practice random acts of kindness. Fairly share household chores and child rearing responsibilities. View marriage as a partnership. To make it work successfully, you have to work as a team and respect each other.
Trust
Trust is a very essential factor for a successful marriage. Strive each day to build a safe emotional space for each other. A couple builds trust by constantly improving their communication skills, expressing their needs clearly and assertively, being kind to each other, resolving issues and fighting fairly.
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