An estimated 44 million American families and/or friends are caregivers for another adult, accounting for 80 percent of long-term care. Add to these statistics the predictions that the number of people aged 65 years and older will quadruple in the next 30 years, pretty much guarantees that live-in caregivers such as family members and friends will be needed for the long-term.
Many are unprepared for the onslaught of responsibility and stress that comes from caring for an adult, and many continue to provide care while trying to maintain a job and care for their own children.
The arrangement may have come about because of a parent or other older adult has started experiencing difficulties accomplishing or managing some or all daily activities or necessities.
If it becomes obvious that your loved one or friend needs a live-in caregiver, here are a few things to consider before jumping into the role.
Are you the Right Live-In Caregiver?
Assess your strengths and weaknesses and how you handle opportunities and threats. It helps to actually sit down and write out your strengths as a caregiver and how those strengths could benefit the person needing care.
Examine your weaknesses and how they could affect or have consequences in your role as a caregiver.
Examine what opportunities and resources may be available to you and to your loved one to help them cope with their limited abilities.
Consider the threats both immediate and long-term from the outside world and from inside the house. Sometime significant home modifications are necessary to make a house safe and easy to cope with from a limited-abilities point of view.
Tips for Managing as a Family Member Live-In Caregiver
1) Make sure you have documents such as blood sugar chart, medical emergency contacts and medication history chart easily accessible for quick reference.
2) Approach the person you’re assisting from the front and make eye contact to avoid startling and confusing them. While you’re assisting them, use a calm voice and keep making eye contact.
3) Adjust your timing. Many know the frustration of trying to get a child to hurry up and rush to get somewhere. The same frustration can be had with looking after an elderly person.
So adjust your schedule to avoid the need to rush, and allow time for them to finish what they’re doing before moving on to the next activity.
4) Use the major bone and muscle groups to aid in safe moving and avoid strains or injury while moving from one activity to the next.
5) “Remember the person inside. Your parent is likely different mentally and/or physically than the way you remember ... To respond to your parent’s needs, you have to know him/her ... Your parent may have changed, but they are the same person on the inside” (Agingcare.com)
Check out the online support at www.aging-parents-and-elder-care.com and www.medicare.gov/caregivers/community-stories.html/
Sources:
Caregiving Info & Advice. Family Caregiver Alliance. Web. Jan 23, 2012. http://www.caregiver.org/jsp/content_node.jsp?nodeid=344
Hands-On Skills for Caregivers. Family Caregiver Alliance. Web. Jan 23, 2012. http://www.caregiver.org/jsp/content_node.jsp?nodeid=787
Home Care Safety and Easy Access. Family Caregiving 101. Web. Jan 23, 2012. http://www.familycaregiving101.org/manage/home_safety.cfm
Caregiver Self-Assessments. Family Caregiving 101. Web. Jan 23, 2012. http://www.familycaregiving101.org/manage/self_assesment.cfm
Helpsheets. The Caring Space. Web. Jan 19, 2012. https://www.thecaringspace.com/articles/helpsheet
Elderly Caregiving: Choices, Challenges, and Resources for the Family. University of California, San Francisco Medical Center. Web. Jan 19, 2012. http://ucsfhr.ucsf.edu/index.php/assist/article/elderly-caregiving-choices-challenges-and-resources-for-the-family
“13 Secrets that Make Caregiving Easier” by Marlo Sollitto. AgingCare.com. Web. Jan 19, 2012. http://www.agingcare.com/Articles/make-caregiving-easier-141826.htm
Reviewed January 24, 2012
by Michele Blacksberg RN
Edited by Jody Smith
Add a Comment5 Comments
I was a caregiver for my husband for about 6 months. The thing I learned was that I needed some time for myself and that it was ok to take that time. Without it, I was worthless to my husband and to the rest of my family. I think it is imperative to find someone that you trust to help you out so that you get a "time out" at least once a week.
January 25, 2012 - 11:55amThis Comment
Thank you for sharing your experience. Yes, that is extremely important. Just like in anything else we need down time, we particularly need it when all our physical and emotional resources are going into caring for someone else. It's important to not let ourselves get dry.
January 25, 2012 - 12:22pmThis Comment
Hi Darlene, looking forward to it. Such an important topic especially with the increasing number of our boomer population.
January 25, 2012 - 8:01amThis Comment
Caregiving is absolutely demanding, rewarding, loving and challenging especially for sandwich generation families. Another key element to family caregiving is learning to be organized, flexible and plan ahead. For family caregivers to prevent burn out, they need to CARE for themselves, ask for help, learn to take breaks and get the guilt out of their hearts because they can't do it all.
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Thank you for your comment. One of my upcoming articles will be on dealing with caregiver stress specifically.
January 25, 2012 - 5:26amThis Comment