I recently suffered from a very rare an extremely life threatening illness when i fell pregnant with my second child. I had a wonderful, loving caring partner who I trusted completely and was there for me when i was dying in hospital. I had to lose my baby in order to save my life. My husband and I thought about this and discussed the issue thoroughly. He was adamant that there was no choice to be made. He couldn't lose me and the odds of the baby surviving were very low. I felt torn between having to choose between my existing child and the life trying to grow inside me but I knew i didn't really have a choice. The pregnancy was ended and I started to recover, slowly. My husband started to withdraw from me and everyone else around him. His father then became ill just after I got out of hospital at at the beginning of the year he left after a few turbulent weeks where he suffered a range of mood swings and confusion to his feelings for me. I am on the mend but it has not been a smooth road to recovery and I do believe that my once loving Husband is in fact in the midst of some form of mental illness breakdown. Despite this the only professional advice I have been given is give him time, this often happens with men and their wives. he might come back? Some have said why would you want him. "Because thats what you do". I cant just walk away from the man I love and trusted if he is suffering from an illness. Two wrongs don't make a right. I can't do it to him because he did it to me first. We had GOOD life together and our marriage was solid before this happened or so i thought. What is frustrating is the lack of help out there for wives in my situation who have to sit back and watch their loved one proceed in destroying his life.
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I recently suffered from a very rare an extremely life threatening illness when i fell pregnant with my second child. I had a wonderful, loving caring partner who I trusted completely and was there for me when i was dying in hospital. I had to lose my baby in order to save my life. My husband and I thought about this and discussed the issue thoroughly. He was adamant that there was no choice to be made. He couldn't lose me and the odds of the baby surviving were very low. I felt torn between having to choose between my existing child and the life trying to grow inside me but I knew i didn't really have a choice. The pregnancy was ended and I started to recover, slowly. My husband started to withdraw from me and everyone else around him. His father then became ill just after I got out of hospital at at the beginning of the year he left after a few turbulent weeks where he suffered a range of mood swings and confusion to his feelings for me. I am on the mend but it has not been a smooth road to recovery and I do believe that my once loving Husband is in fact in the midst of some form of mental illness breakdown. Despite this the only professional advice I have been given is give him time, this often happens with men and their wives. he might come back? Some have said why would you want him. "Because thats what you do". I cant just walk away from the man I love and trusted if he is suffering from an illness. Two wrongs don't make a right. I can't do it to him because he did it to me first. We had GOOD life together and our marriage was solid before this happened or so i thought. What is frustrating is the lack of help out there for wives in my situation who have to sit back and watch their loved one proceed in destroying his life.
February 24, 2009 - 4:08pmThis Comment
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