I'm wondering, after reading your question, about your brain instead of your sex drive...as the mind is the most important sex organ.
I have a toddler, and understand how tiresome children are to sexual relationships. Since your hormones are considered normal, what about the other aspects of your life? How do you feel about them, how does your partner feel about them, and is there anything that can be changed, omitted or delegated?
The reason I'm asking is, I've noticed in my life, if I don't feel that my husband is helping around the house (which means a LOT more work for me), does not show he appreciates me, is not showing affection in little ways throughout the day...then by the evening, I have no desire to be intimate with him. Some days, I'm even lucky if I take a shower before noon, which does not make me feel "sexy" by any means.
Lastly, do you feel you have the opportunity (time, energy, etc) for intimacy with your partner, in ways that are exciting and desire-building for you (for example: your partner wanting an afternoon "quickie", but you've been up for seven hours, chasing the kids, just finished feeding all three and the only thing that kept you going was to be able to sit down in peace for a few moments...just to have your partner "make a move"...). If that is the situation you are referring to as "low libido", then don't be so hard on yourself! If this does not describe your situation, can you provide us with more information and we can help.
Just a few of my thoughts...I hope to hear back from you soon!
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I'm wondering, after reading your question, about your brain instead of your sex drive...as the mind is the most important sex organ.
I have a toddler, and understand how tiresome children are to sexual relationships. Since your hormones are considered normal, what about the other aspects of your life? How do you feel about them, how does your partner feel about them, and is there anything that can be changed, omitted or delegated?
The reason I'm asking is, I've noticed in my life, if I don't feel that my husband is helping around the house (which means a LOT more work for me), does not show he appreciates me, is not showing affection in little ways throughout the day...then by the evening, I have no desire to be intimate with him. Some days, I'm even lucky if I take a shower before noon, which does not make me feel "sexy" by any means.
Lastly, do you feel you have the opportunity (time, energy, etc) for intimacy with your partner, in ways that are exciting and desire-building for you (for example: your partner wanting an afternoon "quickie", but you've been up for seven hours, chasing the kids, just finished feeding all three and the only thing that kept you going was to be able to sit down in peace for a few moments...just to have your partner "make a move"...). If that is the situation you are referring to as "low libido", then don't be so hard on yourself! If this does not describe your situation, can you provide us with more information and we can help.
Just a few of my thoughts...I hope to hear back from you soon!
September 28, 2008 - 1:31pmThis Comment
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