You know, I think there has to be a door open for infidelity to occur, whether someone is away on a short business trip or whether they're deployed to fight in the war. Plenty of people have been unfaithful in their everyday lives; on the other hand, plenty of people have been faithful the entire time they are deployed.
There's no comparison to how hard the deployment is to endure. I have friends who were journalists during the Vietnam War and they say that while you are over there, with death a possibility every day, it sharpens your senses and sometimes makes you engage in risky behavior -- sort of a "I'm already at war, what could this hurt?" kind of attitude.
When they were over there, though, there were no computers, there was no email, there were no cell phones. It has to be so much easier for separated couples and families to stay in touch just because they can hear each other's voices, read each other's thoughts, see pictures of what the kids are doing at home, and so on. And maybe that cuts down on some of the loneliness on both sides.
I think, in the end, maybe it all comes down to how committed a person is to the vows they took. If they didn't take them seriously, if that door is open for cheating, it could happen right under a person's nose just as easily as it could happen halfway across the world.
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You know, I think there has to be a door open for infidelity to occur, whether someone is away on a short business trip or whether they're deployed to fight in the war. Plenty of people have been unfaithful in their everyday lives; on the other hand, plenty of people have been faithful the entire time they are deployed.
There's no comparison to how hard the deployment is to endure. I have friends who were journalists during the Vietnam War and they say that while you are over there, with death a possibility every day, it sharpens your senses and sometimes makes you engage in risky behavior -- sort of a "I'm already at war, what could this hurt?" kind of attitude.
When they were over there, though, there were no computers, there was no email, there were no cell phones. It has to be so much easier for separated couples and families to stay in touch just because they can hear each other's voices, read each other's thoughts, see pictures of what the kids are doing at home, and so on. And maybe that cuts down on some of the loneliness on both sides.
I think, in the end, maybe it all comes down to how committed a person is to the vows they took. If they didn't take them seriously, if that door is open for cheating, it could happen right under a person's nose just as easily as it could happen halfway across the world.
October 27, 2008 - 8:38amThis Comment
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