Thank you for your honesty...I am a military wife of 14 years and my husband returned 6 mnths ago from his third deployment also. I never in a million years worried about infidelity, never. We love each other, are loving and kind and I took all the necessary steps to make sure he knew he was loved and missed while he was gone. I found love letters and photos in his tote after they arrived a month after him. It helped so much to know I am not alone, to know that it is normal to feel as though, even though they are trying to make it right and love you, that I am forever changed. It's 2 a.m. and he's sleeping while I am looking for help online. Do you feel as I do that how could a female in the military do this to an Army wife (in my case), like they should have more respect? This went on for the entire year and I found out later they never once used protection, stupid careless things that I can't wrap my head around. I wasn't able to have his children (her getting pregnant would have killed me) and know that deployments are much harder for those with kids,as are the issues after infidelity but I can't seem to get past this and it's starting to envelop me and stop all the good parts that he's tried to bring back unnoticeable. I'm no longer me...kind of the 9/11 of my marriage.
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Thank you for your honesty...I am a military wife of 14 years and my husband returned 6 mnths ago from his third deployment also. I never in a million years worried about infidelity, never. We love each other, are loving and kind and I took all the necessary steps to make sure he knew he was loved and missed while he was gone. I found love letters and photos in his tote after they arrived a month after him. It helped so much to know I am not alone, to know that it is normal to feel as though, even though they are trying to make it right and love you, that I am forever changed. It's 2 a.m. and he's sleeping while I am looking for help online. Do you feel as I do that how could a female in the military do this to an Army wife (in my case), like they should have more respect? This went on for the entire year and I found out later they never once used protection, stupid careless things that I can't wrap my head around. I wasn't able to have his children (her getting pregnant would have killed me) and know that deployments are much harder for those with kids,as are the issues after infidelity but I can't seem to get past this and it's starting to envelop me and stop all the good parts that he's tried to bring back unnoticeable. I'm no longer me...kind of the 9/11 of my marriage.
January 14, 2011 - 12:53amThis Comment
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