So it's been 7 months since I found out about my husbands deployment affair (I posted anonymously about my eleven year marriage, three kids....etc.) I was interested to find out how you and your husband were doing. I spent many many nights awake at 2am thinking, reliving, wondering......just endlessly trapped in my brain. It took me a really long time to come to terms with this. If it wasn't for his remorse and endless dedication to making things right i would have raped him for all he's worth! My morales run deep and to be so completely dedicated to a man for so long and then to be so brutally lied to is REALLY hard for me. But i can surely say the light is getting brighter at the end of the tunnel. He's currently away right now at NCOA and that's been a little bit of a struggle for me but we are making it through. Lots of praying for me and a whole lot of self help books. I read alot about the anatomy of an affair and that helped me to understand why he held on even after he came home. It's not cause he was so in love with her, it was because he felt bad for her and sorry for what he did to her too. Which he should! And another thing i realized is when he's laying sound asleep in bed and im awake thinking, he's comfortable, happy and right where he wants to be. That's why he's sleeping. He's not laying there missing that other woman, he's moved on. Done with it and ready to repair his marriage. The military is full of infidelity, swingers, sexting etc....stuff that people justify for the sake of "attention"! It racks my brain how quickly people (Husband AND wives) will break their marriage vows.
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So it's been 7 months since I found out about my husbands deployment affair (I posted anonymously about my eleven year marriage, three kids....etc.) I was interested to find out how you and your husband were doing. I spent many many nights awake at 2am thinking, reliving, wondering......just endlessly trapped in my brain. It took me a really long time to come to terms with this. If it wasn't for his remorse and endless dedication to making things right i would have raped him for all he's worth! My morales run deep and to be so completely dedicated to a man for so long and then to be so brutally lied to is REALLY hard for me. But i can surely say the light is getting brighter at the end of the tunnel. He's currently away right now at NCOA and that's been a little bit of a struggle for me but we are making it through. Lots of praying for me and a whole lot of self help books. I read alot about the anatomy of an affair and that helped me to understand why he held on even after he came home. It's not cause he was so in love with her, it was because he felt bad for her and sorry for what he did to her too. Which he should! And another thing i realized is when he's laying sound asleep in bed and im awake thinking, he's comfortable, happy and right where he wants to be. That's why he's sleeping. He's not laying there missing that other woman, he's moved on. Done with it and ready to repair his marriage. The military is full of infidelity, swingers, sexting etc....stuff that people justify for the sake of "attention"! It racks my brain how quickly people (Husband AND wives) will break their marriage vows.
April 3, 2011 - 9:05pmThis Comment
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