I wonder if you learned anything about the communication aspect of sexuality. The male "mishandling" is happening, in part, because of lack of communication about what is pleasurable and satisfying. Anything women (and men) can do about this?
I can assume some of the miscommunication has to do with portions of your post that related to communication: if a woman does not self-stimulate and know her body, she may be unable to tell her partner what she likes. Lack of education plays a role, as women and men do not have some of the basic words to describe body parts; it feels awkward to say clitoris, vagina, penis for some people. It's even more awkward to tell your partner exactly what turns you on, and it can be embarrassing. (I know, it's ironic that people are more embarrassed to TALK about sex that to DO IT!). And, lastly, men may not be able to adequately hear/listen to the woman, because they think they already KNOW (or should know, if they are a "real man") what women want.
So...with all these assumptions and miscommunication...how do we get past these and actually talk about sex with our partners?!!
I would love to hear your thoughts/insight on this!
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This has been very interesting to read!
I wonder if you learned anything about the communication aspect of sexuality. The male "mishandling" is happening, in part, because of lack of communication about what is pleasurable and satisfying. Anything women (and men) can do about this?
I can assume some of the miscommunication has to do with portions of your post that related to communication: if a woman does not self-stimulate and know her body, she may be unable to tell her partner what she likes. Lack of education plays a role, as women and men do not have some of the basic words to describe body parts; it feels awkward to say clitoris, vagina, penis for some people. It's even more awkward to tell your partner exactly what turns you on, and it can be embarrassing. (I know, it's ironic that people are more embarrassed to TALK about sex that to DO IT!). And, lastly, men may not be able to adequately hear/listen to the woman, because they think they already KNOW (or should know, if they are a "real man") what women want.
So...with all these assumptions and miscommunication...how do we get past these and actually talk about sex with our partners?!!
I would love to hear your thoughts/insight on this!
November 4, 2008 - 4:06pmThis Comment
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