My brother's wife began to go away fro days, including new years - 4 days in Atlantic City, Christmas, Thanksgiving,etc., when he became increasingly ill with cancer. He was very depressed, not the happy person he was before, but nonetheless the same person. His wife said she has to handle the burden and his grown kids did not visit enough, or help enough. She also was angry at the siblings for not being there enough. She said it was depressing on weekends and wanted people over as much as possible. Unfortunately the siblings lived far away, but did come at least once a month and was very involved in his care as far as talking on the phone frequently, going to doctors appts and doing research, as well as just support. The wife appeared to start cheating on him and although my brother said he did not blame her, he was deeply hurt. She said she would not abandon him, and would come back a few days per week to take him to doctors appts and clean house, etc. On the weekends there was no food, and their 16 year old daughter would stay with him, while the mother was gone. She had to lie to her friends when they had car pooling to school because her mother was usually not home. a few weeks after my brother died a man moved into the home. She did not work when my brother was sick or during their whole marriage of 17 years. When it came time for the funeral she had no money and the whole family had to pitch in to pay for it. She promised to pay everyone back, but no word of this since, and has asked to borrow lots of money. She continues to not work. I despise this woman tremendously. She said she was young and needed to live and life was short, and that she would never abandon my brother but needed time away so she can do what she needed to help him the few days she was there. Am I wrong to despise this woman?
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My brother's wife began to go away fro days, including new years - 4 days in Atlantic City, Christmas, Thanksgiving,etc., when he became increasingly ill with cancer. He was very depressed, not the happy person he was before, but nonetheless the same person. His wife said she has to handle the burden and his grown kids did not visit enough, or help enough. She also was angry at the siblings for not being there enough. She said it was depressing on weekends and wanted people over as much as possible. Unfortunately the siblings lived far away, but did come at least once a month and was very involved in his care as far as talking on the phone frequently, going to doctors appts and doing research, as well as just support. The wife appeared to start cheating on him and although my brother said he did not blame her, he was deeply hurt. She said she would not abandon him, and would come back a few days per week to take him to doctors appts and clean house, etc. On the weekends there was no food, and their 16 year old daughter would stay with him, while the mother was gone. She had to lie to her friends when they had car pooling to school because her mother was usually not home. a few weeks after my brother died a man moved into the home. She did not work when my brother was sick or during their whole marriage of 17 years. When it came time for the funeral she had no money and the whole family had to pitch in to pay for it. She promised to pay everyone back, but no word of this since, and has asked to borrow lots of money. She continues to not work. I despise this woman tremendously. She said she was young and needed to live and life was short, and that she would never abandon my brother but needed time away so she can do what she needed to help him the few days she was there. Am I wrong to despise this woman?
September 8, 2013 - 11:03amThis Comment
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