I have a story of my own to add. I'm 31 and recently moved across the country with my boyfriend, who is 25 and type 1 diabetic suffering from neuropathy and gastroparesis. He is in pain most of the time, but I find he fights me whenever I try to offer support or take some of the workload off of him.
The problem is, when he's feeling fine, he's great to me - but when he's having a bout of pain, he is the worst person I've ever met in my life. He says the most horrible, nonsensical, baseless things to me in the heat of the moment and I've been dealing with it for the last 4 months - including the long drive across the country.
For the last 6-7 months, I have been the only person supporting us. His father has helped us in many ways, but he has not. He's never feeling good enough to look for a job - and yet, all I hear are promises that "one day" he will pay for something or pay me back, etc. I wouldn't mind if it weren't for the fact that my only income is unemployment insurance and it doesn't even cover my own bills. I've had to let my credit cards go unpaid because I can't find a job and we don't have other income. I've put myself in a terrible spot just to be with him and it sucks when I feel like most of the time, I am not appreciated.
I don't really know what to do because I'm an anxious/depressed person in general and am bipolar and don't see a doctor like I need to (don't have the $$ and charity care is a nightmare to try and start as a new resident). This is too much for me. I thought moving to his parents where we have our own space, but still have them around - would help some... but only in that I don't have to cook him small meals all day. He really is like Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde with all of this - i love him to pieces, but I don't know what to do!
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I have a story of my own to add. I'm 31 and recently moved across the country with my boyfriend, who is 25 and type 1 diabetic suffering from neuropathy and gastroparesis. He is in pain most of the time, but I find he fights me whenever I try to offer support or take some of the workload off of him.
The problem is, when he's feeling fine, he's great to me - but when he's having a bout of pain, he is the worst person I've ever met in my life. He says the most horrible, nonsensical, baseless things to me in the heat of the moment and I've been dealing with it for the last 4 months - including the long drive across the country.
For the last 6-7 months, I have been the only person supporting us. His father has helped us in many ways, but he has not. He's never feeling good enough to look for a job - and yet, all I hear are promises that "one day" he will pay for something or pay me back, etc. I wouldn't mind if it weren't for the fact that my only income is unemployment insurance and it doesn't even cover my own bills. I've had to let my credit cards go unpaid because I can't find a job and we don't have other income. I've put myself in a terrible spot just to be with him and it sucks when I feel like most of the time, I am not appreciated.
I don't really know what to do because I'm an anxious/depressed person in general and am bipolar and don't see a doctor like I need to (don't have the $$ and charity care is a nightmare to try and start as a new resident). This is too much for me. I thought moving to his parents where we have our own space, but still have them around - would help some... but only in that I don't have to cook him small meals all day. He really is like Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde with all of this - i love him to pieces, but I don't know what to do!
May 24, 2014 - 5:49pmThis Comment
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