I am SO glad I've found this site! I really don't know where to begin.
Although I am not married I am 32 year old woman who is in a relationship with a wonderful 41 year old man. He is quite easily one of the most amazingly generous and fun loving person I've ever met in my life. Whenever I'm with him I feel at ease and just overall better about life! He does have one issue: the issue is that he has many friends and family who use him. They constantly stack their problems on him. He finds himself always paying for other people like helping to pay $500 for for a bill they've been behind on or picking up the tab when his 3 friends conveniently walk away when the check comes. I've constantly tried to tell him that these people are vultures and their only using him. And usually he gets upset when he realizes he's been duped. I've tried to protect him. Well last week all of his frustrations with these people finally came to surface and he's been diagnosed with high blood pressure. Just as I feared! And now I'm feeling like I'm willing to deal with his health issues but I'm not willing to continue to stand by and watch him eat uncontrollably, smoke and deal with his constant issues with his friends and family who frustrate him on a regular basis. I'm willing to stay but he needs to change his life around. We've only been dating for a year. Should I bow out now, or hang around. I don't want to end up with a broken heart, but at the same token I don't want his heart to stop if he doesn't change. I'm just anxious, confused, and upset.
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I am SO glad I've found this site! I really don't know where to begin.
September 27, 2014 - 7:19pmAlthough I am not married I am 32 year old woman who is in a relationship with a wonderful 41 year old man. He is quite easily one of the most amazingly generous and fun loving person I've ever met in my life. Whenever I'm with him I feel at ease and just overall better about life! He does have one issue: the issue is that he has many friends and family who use him. They constantly stack their problems on him. He finds himself always paying for other people like helping to pay $500 for for a bill they've been behind on or picking up the tab when his 3 friends conveniently walk away when the check comes. I've constantly tried to tell him that these people are vultures and their only using him. And usually he gets upset when he realizes he's been duped. I've tried to protect him. Well last week all of his frustrations with these people finally came to surface and he's been diagnosed with high blood pressure. Just as I feared! And now I'm feeling like I'm willing to deal with his health issues but I'm not willing to continue to stand by and watch him eat uncontrollably, smoke and deal with his constant issues with his friends and family who frustrate him on a regular basis. I'm willing to stay but he needs to change his life around. We've only been dating for a year. Should I bow out now, or hang around. I don't want to end up with a broken heart, but at the same token I don't want his heart to stop if he doesn't change. I'm just anxious, confused, and upset.
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