I have endured 15 yrs of verbal and emotional abuse from my husband -- he has driven away my daughters (from previous marriage --they are adults now) with his cruel words. He's had numerous health issues (pneumonia, blood clots, heart irregularities). He had a stroke 5 yrs ago and I reached the end of my tolerance for the pain of life with him. He is the total victim -- it's always about him, his ailments, money woes -- since he had the stroke he went on disability and can't work. I pay all the bills -- mortgage, daycare for our 10- year-old son, buy food and cook it after 9-10 hrs at work. There were days I was so physically and emotionally exhausted after working all day, and the minute I'd walk into the house he'd ask what I was going to cook for dinner. He never talks to me about anything except himself and his problems. Never asked how I am doing or seems to care. He hides his disability $ from me and expects me to pay his way. I just found out he has saved $2000 so he can buy a car for himself-- this while I was rolling pennies so I could get gas to go to work. He rages at me if I don't give him $, threatens to divorce me and take son away, then cries and seems totally unstrung. It is horrible.
I feel sorry for him yet recognize the red flag of codependency at the same time. He lives separate from me in quarters above garage with a separate entrance. I do not let him enter the house where I reside with my son, although I know he comes in when I am at work.
I KNOW that his me-me-me attitude will eventually kill me -- definitely spiritually and quite possibly physically, so removing myself and son from his toxicity is the only answer. It is easier if I don't have to interact with him.
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I have endured 15 yrs of verbal and emotional abuse from my husband -- he has driven away my daughters (from previous marriage --they are adults now) with his cruel words. He's had numerous health issues (pneumonia, blood clots, heart irregularities). He had a stroke 5 yrs ago and I reached the end of my tolerance for the pain of life with him. He is the total victim -- it's always about him, his ailments, money woes -- since he had the stroke he went on disability and can't work. I pay all the bills -- mortgage, daycare for our 10- year-old son, buy food and cook it after 9-10 hrs at work. There were days I was so physically and emotionally exhausted after working all day, and the minute I'd walk into the house he'd ask what I was going to cook for dinner. He never talks to me about anything except himself and his problems. Never asked how I am doing or seems to care. He hides his disability $ from me and expects me to pay his way. I just found out he has saved $2000 so he can buy a car for himself-- this while I was rolling pennies so I could get gas to go to work. He rages at me if I don't give him $, threatens to divorce me and take son away, then cries and seems totally unstrung. It is horrible.
March 11, 2015 - 9:14pmI feel sorry for him yet recognize the red flag of codependency at the same time. He lives separate from me in quarters above garage with a separate entrance. I do not let him enter the house where I reside with my son, although I know he comes in when I am at work.
I KNOW that his me-me-me attitude will eventually kill me -- definitely spiritually and quite possibly physically, so removing myself and son from his toxicity is the only answer. It is easier if I don't have to interact with him.
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