I'm a married young women with MS and I hate feeling like I'm a burden on my husband. Every time a new illness pops up I ask him if he wants to leave (hoping the answer will always be NO). Some times we don't think about the pain that's in our body or really worry about what may break next... we worry about being alone. The reality of being diagnosed with a incurable disease his terrible BUT being diagnose and having to wonder if your loved ones are going to leave is worse. As a female I would go to counseling if my husband felt I needed it, but that's not always that simple for men whether their sick or health for that matter. Maybe you can find a counselor that's willing to come to your house for a "dinner party". Vows are important and should be honored BUT it does take two. Let your husband know how you feel and be honest. Don't sugar coated it keep it real. You can also do a trial separation. If you have family that you can stay with, go there for a while and let him see how much you're really doing for him. It sounds like he's taking you for granted and nothing makes the heart grow stronger than distance. Don't come back home until he goes to counseling and starts making changes. HE has to appreciate the marriage just as much as you if not more. Don't take this the wrong way but please don't talk with other men or go out and party during this time, because it will pull you towards divorce. Work on you! Take some caregivers classes or link up with other caregivers. Go out and relax with female friends that support your marriage and want to help you stay strong. You need and deserve a break and there's nothing wrong with getting it. Truthfully that's the only way to make it work. Once you guys get back on the right track schedule a mini vacation for yourself at least once a year. You're healthy now but your life could always change so enjoy yourself whenever you get a moment.
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I'm a married young women with MS and I hate feeling like I'm a burden on my husband. Every time a new illness pops up I ask him if he wants to leave (hoping the answer will always be NO). Some times we don't think about the pain that's in our body or really worry about what may break next... we worry about being alone. The reality of being diagnosed with a incurable disease his terrible BUT being diagnose and having to wonder if your loved ones are going to leave is worse. As a female I would go to counseling if my husband felt I needed it, but that's not always that simple for men whether their sick or health for that matter. Maybe you can find a counselor that's willing to come to your house for a "dinner party". Vows are important and should be honored BUT it does take two. Let your husband know how you feel and be honest. Don't sugar coated it keep it real. You can also do a trial separation. If you have family that you can stay with, go there for a while and let him see how much you're really doing for him. It sounds like he's taking you for granted and nothing makes the heart grow stronger than distance. Don't come back home until he goes to counseling and starts making changes. HE has to appreciate the marriage just as much as you if not more. Don't take this the wrong way but please don't talk with other men or go out and party during this time, because it will pull you towards divorce. Work on you! Take some caregivers classes or link up with other caregivers. Go out and relax with female friends that support your marriage and want to help you stay strong. You need and deserve a break and there's nothing wrong with getting it. Truthfully that's the only way to make it work. Once you guys get back on the right track schedule a mini vacation for yourself at least once a year. You're healthy now but your life could always change so enjoy yourself whenever you get a moment.
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