My husband of 40 years was diagnosed with stage 4 bladder cancer 10 months after his doctor refused to do a test I had requested. His diagnosis came only 9 months after my own breast cancer diagnosis surgery, followed by radiation and oral chemo.
Understand you will go through a wide array of emotions, from anger to grieving. Your wife will also experience some varying emotions. If she becomes angry easily, please understand and don't take it personally. It's not you, she will just be angry with her situation. It will be hard, but life is so precious. Hold her close, be sure she still feels like a woman and not a disease. Encourage her to do whatever she wants to do. If she wants to talk, listen. When she goes to the doctor, go with her or have someone go who can be her advocate.
I lost my darling husband this past October after 3 years of treatments. I read a saying the other day that stated the worse grieving is for the person who is still alive. It's very true. I felt I was in the first stage of grief for the entire 3 years. Pick one close friend you can trust to vent your feelings. To your wife, family and the rest of the world, you tell them you are taking it one day at a time. Love your family to the best of your ability, you would expect her to do it for you if the conditions were reversed. I wish you all the best. You and your family will be in my heart.
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My husband of 40 years was diagnosed with stage 4 bladder cancer 10 months after his doctor refused to do a test I had requested. His diagnosis came only 9 months after my own breast cancer diagnosis surgery, followed by radiation and oral chemo.
March 20, 2016 - 11:35amUnderstand you will go through a wide array of emotions, from anger to grieving. Your wife will also experience some varying emotions. If she becomes angry easily, please understand and don't take it personally. It's not you, she will just be angry with her situation. It will be hard, but life is so precious. Hold her close, be sure she still feels like a woman and not a disease. Encourage her to do whatever she wants to do. If she wants to talk, listen. When she goes to the doctor, go with her or have someone go who can be her advocate.
I lost my darling husband this past October after 3 years of treatments. I read a saying the other day that stated the worse grieving is for the person who is still alive. It's very true. I felt I was in the first stage of grief for the entire 3 years. Pick one close friend you can trust to vent your feelings. To your wife, family and the rest of the world, you tell them you are taking it one day at a time. Love your family to the best of your ability, you would expect her to do it for you if the conditions were reversed. I wish you all the best. You and your family will be in my heart.
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