My husband was diagnosed with MS 7 months after we were married. We knew he had something wrong because he was having trouble with balance and walking. I thought after diagnosis things would get easier. But they have only gotten worse. He is on disability and stays home all day. He has a hard time making changes to how he does things. A lot of the day to day I am cleaning up things, and helping him do things. I make his breakfast, get him dressed, prepare lunch most days, go to work for 8 hours and then come home and do all of it throughout the night. We both didn't want kids because we wanted our careers and each other to be the plan. My career has taken a backseat to his illness. He has no drive to leave the house EVER. I am someone who sleeps next to him but helps him with everything. I am not his wife. Do we love each other YES, but I can't keep this up. I need to live my life because we have only been married for 4 and a half years. This was not how it was supposed to be. We are so unhappy with each other and I cannot deal with the constant destruction in my life. I don't want to divorce but I do want a life. I would love a life with him but he doesn't want one. He has told me that. He wants this one to fast forward to being over.
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My husband was diagnosed with MS 7 months after we were married. We knew he had something wrong because he was having trouble with balance and walking. I thought after diagnosis things would get easier. But they have only gotten worse. He is on disability and stays home all day. He has a hard time making changes to how he does things. A lot of the day to day I am cleaning up things, and helping him do things. I make his breakfast, get him dressed, prepare lunch most days, go to work for 8 hours and then come home and do all of it throughout the night. We both didn't want kids because we wanted our careers and each other to be the plan. My career has taken a backseat to his illness. He has no drive to leave the house EVER. I am someone who sleeps next to him but helps him with everything. I am not his wife. Do we love each other YES, but I can't keep this up. I need to live my life because we have only been married for 4 and a half years. This was not how it was supposed to be. We are so unhappy with each other and I cannot deal with the constant destruction in my life. I don't want to divorce but I do want a life. I would love a life with him but he doesn't want one. He has told me that. He wants this one to fast forward to being over.
July 15, 2016 - 1:22pmThis Comment
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