I can't imagine the anguish, pain and frustration you must be going through. And I can't imagine the anger, pain and frustration your DH is suffering with his MS.
Years ago, I had a client who was diagnosed with MS. He was in his 40's, a successful businessman and well-liked. Then, he turned "evil." Dependent upon a wheelchair, he'd have someone wheel him into my office where he would sit with his cronies watching the stock market results (I was an investment banker, back then). Whereas he had once been a joy to be around, he became a pain in the rear. We all tried to be understanding and supportive of him, but we felt so sorry for - even protective of - his wife, who was visibly ragged by his constant nagging and bullying. We finally all got together to hold an intervention and told him how badly he was behaving, and saying that we knew it was because he was so angry about his condition. The good news is that he listened. His condition worsened over time, but, at least for a while, he had his cronies to talk to, his wife got a little peace and a break away from him, and they were able to work things out.
One day, a quadriplegic was wheeled into my office. I had talked to him over the phone several times, but had never met him. When he was brought in, the fellow with MS realized how much better off he was and started changing his tune. Sometimes, it takes a reality check - and a few good friends - to get a man out of his bad attitude. I think men take physical weakness much harder than women because they think they're expected to be our pillars of strength - and we probably do.
May YOU find the strength. Know that you can come here and find some moral support.
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I can't imagine the anguish, pain and frustration you must be going through. And I can't imagine the anger, pain and frustration your DH is suffering with his MS.
Years ago, I had a client who was diagnosed with MS. He was in his 40's, a successful businessman and well-liked. Then, he turned "evil." Dependent upon a wheelchair, he'd have someone wheel him into my office where he would sit with his cronies watching the stock market results (I was an investment banker, back then). Whereas he had once been a joy to be around, he became a pain in the rear. We all tried to be understanding and supportive of him, but we felt so sorry for - even protective of - his wife, who was visibly ragged by his constant nagging and bullying. We finally all got together to hold an intervention and told him how badly he was behaving, and saying that we knew it was because he was so angry about his condition. The good news is that he listened. His condition worsened over time, but, at least for a while, he had his cronies to talk to, his wife got a little peace and a break away from him, and they were able to work things out.
One day, a quadriplegic was wheeled into my office. I had talked to him over the phone several times, but had never met him. When he was brought in, the fellow with MS realized how much better off he was and started changing his tune. Sometimes, it takes a reality check - and a few good friends - to get a man out of his bad attitude. I think men take physical weakness much harder than women because they think they're expected to be our pillars of strength - and we probably do.
May YOU find the strength. Know that you can come here and find some moral support.
May 19, 2009 - 4:22pmThis Comment
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