My husband hurt his knee on the job a year ago 2/16. A month later had a small stroke. He is 73 and I'm about to turn 30. We have been together a total of 6 years and have been married 2. We always fought from the begging . Terrible verbal abuse. I never knew what person I would wake up to each morning. There were happy times. That's why I fell in love with him. He was kind, gentle, affectionate, emotional, responsible, great in the sack... But he's a controlling person. SO, after this recent injury, he has gone down hill so much that I don't even recognize the person he once was. He has withdrawn himself from me. We argue over stupid things. The arguments get so heated that he will always bring up divorce. Ughhh, I have been through so much with this man and for him to treat me the way he does is just unfathomable to me. I want to care for him. I want him to be happy. Not depressed all the time. But we always end up fighting. And it's gotten worse since his health has started to deteriorate and he can't do the things he once could. I feel emotionless inside. I don't know how to get that feeling back. I love him with my whole heart. I care deeply for this man. And yet he will not let me in. He will not communicate with me. I feel helpless. And all the prior years of emotional abuse have taken its toll . I don't know what to do. He has no family that truly cares for him. I am the only one. I don't want to live my life this way forever. I am way too young to feel this way. My heart breaks everyday. What to do?
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My husband hurt his knee on the job a year ago 2/16. A month later had a small stroke. He is 73 and I'm about to turn 30. We have been together a total of 6 years and have been married 2. We always fought from the begging . Terrible verbal abuse. I never knew what person I would wake up to each morning. There were happy times. That's why I fell in love with him. He was kind, gentle, affectionate, emotional, responsible, great in the sack... But he's a controlling person. SO, after this recent injury, he has gone down hill so much that I don't even recognize the person he once was. He has withdrawn himself from me. We argue over stupid things. The arguments get so heated that he will always bring up divorce. Ughhh, I have been through so much with this man and for him to treat me the way he does is just unfathomable to me. I want to care for him. I want him to be happy. Not depressed all the time. But we always end up fighting. And it's gotten worse since his health has started to deteriorate and he can't do the things he once could. I feel emotionless inside. I don't know how to get that feeling back. I love him with my whole heart. I care deeply for this man. And yet he will not let me in. He will not communicate with me. I feel helpless. And all the prior years of emotional abuse have taken its toll . I don't know what to do. He has no family that truly cares for him. I am the only one. I don't want to live my life this way forever. I am way too young to feel this way. My heart breaks everyday. What to do?
February 15, 2017 - 8:20pmThis Comment
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