Anon-
That was an excellent reply. It's not b/c the care receiver is sick that the caregiver is contemplating leaving, but the way he makes her feel. I highly recommend reading the Dance of Intimacy by Harriet Lerner, PhD- it's very accessible and easy to read. Also there's an excellent audio set called Marriage Rules by Lerner as well. It's helpful for HOW to say what one feels (and one must own what one feels.) Also try the Caregivers Handbook for ideas on how to deal w/ a spouse (usually) who devalues the caregiver. These books were far more helpful than the counselors I spoke with, too bad I found them after my loved one died.
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Anon-
April 14, 2017 - 9:14pmThat was an excellent reply. It's not b/c the care receiver is sick that the caregiver is contemplating leaving, but the way he makes her feel. I highly recommend reading the Dance of Intimacy by Harriet Lerner, PhD- it's very accessible and easy to read. Also there's an excellent audio set called Marriage Rules by Lerner as well. It's helpful for HOW to say what one feels (and one must own what one feels.) Also try the Caregivers Handbook for ideas on how to deal w/ a spouse (usually) who devalues the caregiver. These books were far more helpful than the counselors I spoke with, too bad I found them after my loved one died.
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