Your letter gave me hope to cope with my situation. My husband is also sick. He is 57 years old and has heart problems having suffered 2 heart attacks but the most difficult for us is his anklelosing spondalitis. Don't know if I spelled that right but it is a disease that attacks the nervous system much like MS. He is in pain everyday and night. He is cranky too and irritable which is understandable. He doesn't sleep well at night as the pain keeps him awake and he makes noises in reaction to the pain sometimes making it difficult for me to sleep. I met him 10 years agao and he was my knight in shining armor and was so wonderful and fun. We went out and did fun things like movies, dinner, dancing, karaoke but all that has stopped now due to the progression of the illness. I met him through a dating service and did not know about his illness until it started to get worse. He was a high achiever all his life, very smart and good looking. He was a senior computer engineer and a retired army sargent. I learned so much from him. I am a special education teacher but am laid off currently which didn't help my frame of mind but I'm hanging in there. Now he cannot work due to medical issues and sleeps all day since he can't sleep well at night. He does some chores but I do the bulk of them which since I'm available, I don't mind doing. I've endured 2 heart attacks with him and this back disease. I still haven't accepted it and neither has he. He is depressed and has been so for quite some time now. I'm depressed too because I want my life back. I'm now at the point where I'm reaching out, in that, I want to know how to do this.
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Your letter gave me hope to cope with my situation. My husband is also sick. He is 57 years old and has heart problems having suffered 2 heart attacks but the most difficult for us is his anklelosing spondalitis. Don't know if I spelled that right but it is a disease that attacks the nervous system much like MS. He is in pain everyday and night. He is cranky too and irritable which is understandable. He doesn't sleep well at night as the pain keeps him awake and he makes noises in reaction to the pain sometimes making it difficult for me to sleep. I met him 10 years agao and he was my knight in shining armor and was so wonderful and fun. We went out and did fun things like movies, dinner, dancing, karaoke but all that has stopped now due to the progression of the illness. I met him through a dating service and did not know about his illness until it started to get worse. He was a high achiever all his life, very smart and good looking. He was a senior computer engineer and a retired army sargent. I learned so much from him. I am a special education teacher but am laid off currently which didn't help my frame of mind but I'm hanging in there. Now he cannot work due to medical issues and sleeps all day since he can't sleep well at night. He does some chores but I do the bulk of them which since I'm available, I don't mind doing. I've endured 2 heart attacks with him and this back disease. I still haven't accepted it and neither has he. He is depressed and has been so for quite some time now. I'm depressed too because I want my life back. I'm now at the point where I'm reaching out, in that, I want to know how to do this.
September 20, 2009 - 5:52amThis Comment
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