Hi all, it's me again. Last time I checked in with everyone I was leaving my spouse. I did leave for a long weekend and then came home when my spouse started talking about picking my son up from school and keeping him for 5 day stretches. When I came home my husband decided to speak with a therapist, see his primary care doctor, a GI doctor and a urologist. His antidepressant was doubled and in the last few weeks his mood has been much better. I'll be completely honest though, I really don't know if it's the antidepressant or if he is acting just to keep me arround. I've already told him that I am not promissing to stay and that I have to do what is best for myself and our son. He saw a therapist about 4 or 5 times, who thinks that we should come in together to talk and begin to understand each other....my husband's response is that he doesn't think that we need counseling. The counselor that we meet with individually has said that she believes the antidepressant is working as he is not ruminating over past issues constantly. I'm not so quick to trust that he is getting better. I've had years of him acting nice to me after I stand my ground and then slowly he starts snapping at me constantly, not looking at me when I talk and being downright mean. In the past week or so, he's snapped at me a few times, but not too bad. I feel like I am kind of watching and waiting for the return of the nastiness and then I will know what I need to do. I have been reading some very good books that are focusing on ME and not always about how to fix the relationship. I feel stronger then I have in the past and prepared. Knowing that I have choices, resources and support has been a blessing. Meeting with an attorney and my therapist have helped tremendously. My family knows where I stand and are behind me no matter what I decide to do. I have started exercising and feel much better. I'll keep everyone posted about what happens next.
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Hi all, it's me again. Last time I checked in with everyone I was leaving my spouse. I did leave for a long weekend and then came home when my spouse started talking about picking my son up from school and keeping him for 5 day stretches. When I came home my husband decided to speak with a therapist, see his primary care doctor, a GI doctor and a urologist. His antidepressant was doubled and in the last few weeks his mood has been much better. I'll be completely honest though, I really don't know if it's the antidepressant or if he is acting just to keep me arround. I've already told him that I am not promissing to stay and that I have to do what is best for myself and our son. He saw a therapist about 4 or 5 times, who thinks that we should come in together to talk and begin to understand each other....my husband's response is that he doesn't think that we need counseling. The counselor that we meet with individually has said that she believes the antidepressant is working as he is not ruminating over past issues constantly. I'm not so quick to trust that he is getting better. I've had years of him acting nice to me after I stand my ground and then slowly he starts snapping at me constantly, not looking at me when I talk and being downright mean. In the past week or so, he's snapped at me a few times, but not too bad. I feel like I am kind of watching and waiting for the return of the nastiness and then I will know what I need to do. I have been reading some very good books that are focusing on ME and not always about how to fix the relationship. I feel stronger then I have in the past and prepared. Knowing that I have choices, resources and support has been a blessing. Meeting with an attorney and my therapist have helped tremendously. My family knows where I stand and are behind me no matter what I decide to do. I have started exercising and feel much better. I'll keep everyone posted about what happens next.
October 18, 2009 - 4:11amThis Comment
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