I sometimes do not feel so strong, I did tell several of my friends that I was leaving and now I'm back. I feel a bit foolish for even coming back, but if he was willing to get psychiatric help, I figured that I should make sure that everything is tried before I completely throw in the towel. Then if I do leave, I will not have to doubt as to whether I did everything or not. I too wonder if he will be able to continue with the changes or not. I'm doubtful, especially since he doesn't think that we need counseling together. I feel somewhat that the changes made are kind of like a checklist for himself. I told him what I needed to see happen before I would even consider staying and that I would not make any promises. So, he's basically making changes according to my "wish list". We'll see what happens. Over the past few months I have read many books (especially in the last month). Here's a list for you!
Feeling Good (not the easiest or most pleasant read)
He's just no good for you (I really like this one!) (It's a guide to get out of destructive relationships, not necessarilly divorce, but how to separate yourself from the abuse and teaches some self preservation techniques)
Note to self (I like this one alot, has essays from 30 different women who have dealt with difficult times and how they got through it, with a little word of wisdome at the end of each story)
Transitions (prayers and declarations for a changing life)
The Language of Letting Go (also quite good)
Codependent no more (not the most exciting read)
Too Good to Leave Too Bad to Stay (just getting started with this one)
The Courage to Trust (Just getting started with this one)
Boundaries in Marriage (not the most exciting read)
The Other Victim (discusses being the partner of someone who is ill, personal stories from partners...many who have MS) (I like this one, helps me realize that I am not crazy nor the only one dealing with these issues)
As you can see I've been busy, not to mention studying and writing papers for my doctorate and raising a very active 4 year old little boy. I will continue to keep you updated on how things are going.
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I sometimes do not feel so strong, I did tell several of my friends that I was leaving and now I'm back. I feel a bit foolish for even coming back, but if he was willing to get psychiatric help, I figured that I should make sure that everything is tried before I completely throw in the towel. Then if I do leave, I will not have to doubt as to whether I did everything or not. I too wonder if he will be able to continue with the changes or not. I'm doubtful, especially since he doesn't think that we need counseling together. I feel somewhat that the changes made are kind of like a checklist for himself. I told him what I needed to see happen before I would even consider staying and that I would not make any promises. So, he's basically making changes according to my "wish list". We'll see what happens. Over the past few months I have read many books (especially in the last month). Here's a list for you!
Feeling Good (not the easiest or most pleasant read)
October 18, 2009 - 8:10amHe's just no good for you (I really like this one!) (It's a guide to get out of destructive relationships, not necessarilly divorce, but how to separate yourself from the abuse and teaches some self preservation techniques)
Note to self (I like this one alot, has essays from 30 different women who have dealt with difficult times and how they got through it, with a little word of wisdome at the end of each story)
Transitions (prayers and declarations for a changing life)
The Language of Letting Go (also quite good)
Codependent no more (not the most exciting read)
Too Good to Leave Too Bad to Stay (just getting started with this one)
The Courage to Trust (Just getting started with this one)
Boundaries in Marriage (not the most exciting read)
The Other Victim (discusses being the partner of someone who is ill, personal stories from partners...many who have MS) (I like this one, helps me realize that I am not crazy nor the only one dealing with these issues)
As you can see I've been busy, not to mention studying and writing papers for my doctorate and raising a very active 4 year old little boy. I will continue to keep you updated on how things are going.
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