Thank you so very much for writing us and letting us know how things are going.
It seems to me that uppermost in your mind is the home you are creating for your son, and I think that as long as though that is your primary consideration, you are making good decisions.
The emotional hell that you are living in is nothing but abuse. None of us has the right to inflict that sort of abuse on another person. Your husband's medical condition has changed him physically and psychologically, which is horrible. But he has help available to him (in the form of counseling) that he won't take. He is saying to you, "Live with me this way, period. What I choose to dish out, you will take." And that's not right even for an ill person.
Have strength during your son's surgery. It sounds like it will be difficult, but you have to hold it together, so I know you will. If it's necessary you can ask the nurses for help. I hope that the surgery goes successfully and uneventfully and that your son heals quickly and well.
Good luck with your journey. Please come back again and write to us. You do sound fed up, but you also sound like a good mother who's taking care of her son. That's a good thing. Take care, be strong and take it day by day. Best to you, Nicole. May 2010 be the year you find peace.
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Nicole,
Thank you so very much for writing us and letting us know how things are going.
It seems to me that uppermost in your mind is the home you are creating for your son, and I think that as long as though that is your primary consideration, you are making good decisions.
The emotional hell that you are living in is nothing but abuse. None of us has the right to inflict that sort of abuse on another person. Your husband's medical condition has changed him physically and psychologically, which is horrible. But he has help available to him (in the form of counseling) that he won't take. He is saying to you, "Live with me this way, period. What I choose to dish out, you will take." And that's not right even for an ill person.
Have strength during your son's surgery. It sounds like it will be difficult, but you have to hold it together, so I know you will. If it's necessary you can ask the nurses for help. I hope that the surgery goes successfully and uneventfully and that your son heals quickly and well.
Good luck with your journey. Please come back again and write to us. You do sound fed up, but you also sound like a good mother who's taking care of her son. That's a good thing. Take care, be strong and take it day by day. Best to you, Nicole. May 2010 be the year you find peace.
January 1, 2010 - 9:35amThis Comment
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