My favorite sentence that you wrote is, "I feel like even though everything is a bit of a mess, that things are looking up." I think that's amazing. Your strength and fortitude through all of this has been impressive. It shows me just what a good mother you are.
I too am sorry that your husband is acting this way, but it seems natural that he is lashing out this way. His options right now are (a) try to control you, be angry and make your life miserable, or (b) look himself in the eye and realize where he's wrong in all this. From all you wrote, it is clear that (b) is not something he will do.
You are taking the high road here, and while I know how hard it must be to handle it on a daily basis, you are doing a masterful job of caring for your son. You've taken him to a place where he feels loved and safe, and I'm sure it's a bit of a relief to him Having to go back and forth between his two parents is not ideal, especially when one is so angry, but it is better than living in the middle of conflict.
I know that you will make your case about the care your son needs and your husband's physical inability to provide it, and I'm certain that the judge who hears your case will take all of that into account. I hope that when your husband gets through his initial flush of anger that he'll be able to be less vindictive. But right now it doesn't appear that will happen.
I know all of this just confirms for you the fact that you did the right thing. Hang in there and know that we're here for you, too.
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Nicole,
My favorite sentence that you wrote is, "I feel like even though everything is a bit of a mess, that things are looking up." I think that's amazing. Your strength and fortitude through all of this has been impressive. It shows me just what a good mother you are.
I too am sorry that your husband is acting this way, but it seems natural that he is lashing out this way. His options right now are (a) try to control you, be angry and make your life miserable, or (b) look himself in the eye and realize where he's wrong in all this. From all you wrote, it is clear that (b) is not something he will do.
You are taking the high road here, and while I know how hard it must be to handle it on a daily basis, you are doing a masterful job of caring for your son. You've taken him to a place where he feels loved and safe, and I'm sure it's a bit of a relief to him Having to go back and forth between his two parents is not ideal, especially when one is so angry, but it is better than living in the middle of conflict.
I know that you will make your case about the care your son needs and your husband's physical inability to provide it, and I'm certain that the judge who hears your case will take all of that into account. I hope that when your husband gets through his initial flush of anger that he'll be able to be less vindictive. But right now it doesn't appear that will happen.
I know all of this just confirms for you the fact that you did the right thing. Hang in there and know that we're here for you, too.
February 18, 2010 - 7:13amThis Comment
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