I would suggest that you are the kind of woman who deserves a life AND deserves to care for herself as a valuable human being. My story about MS reads exactly the same as yours, only I stayed until I became clinically depressed and almost committed suicide. I am now 35 years out of that marriage having come to the point that I had to realize we were BOTH valuable enough to seek and find help. Overcoming the "shame" and "guilt" of leaving was NOT easy. It STILL is NOT easy. However, I do believe that the value of being whole as a person WHO HAD THE COURAGE TO MARRY YOUR FIRST LOVE, outwieghs the danger of ending up like I did. My brother gave me the very best counsel I think when he told me " you have to learn to give others the priviledge to misunderstand". They will never understand... they cannot walk in your shoes. I wish you the very best. The only bad decision is one that takes you down with him to the point you are no good to him anyway. If you want someone to listen who has been there... I am at .
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I would suggest that you are the kind of woman who deserves a life AND deserves to care for herself as a valuable human being. My story about MS reads exactly the same as yours, only I stayed until I became clinically depressed and almost committed suicide. I am now 35 years out of that marriage having come to the point that I had to realize we were BOTH valuable enough to seek and find help. Overcoming the "shame" and "guilt" of leaving was NOT easy. It STILL is NOT easy. However, I do believe that the value of being whole as a person WHO HAD THE COURAGE TO MARRY YOUR FIRST LOVE, outwieghs the danger of ending up like I did. My brother gave me the very best counsel I think when he told me " you have to learn to give others the priviledge to misunderstand". They will never understand... they cannot walk in your shoes. I wish you the very best. The only bad decision is one that takes you down with him to the point you are no good to him anyway. If you want someone to listen who has been there... I am at .
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