Gedmonson, Please don't go! I would like to say that I enjoyed reading about your story last night - again, it makes me feel not so alone. I imagine that there are many of us living with frustrations and anger in our own situations, that at times it comes out as if some are comparing who is better or worse off. I know that is not good for any of us! All of us here are trying to adapt to unexpected and many times awful situations - we need to be a resource to eachother. I don't know the person who responded to you or her situation, but I hope you stick around as I imagine there are many who could learn from you and hopefully you could learn from others. I too am a 40 (something) well-spouse, with young kids dealing with an ill spouse. While he does live with me, I dread the day that he will have to go to nursing care - for many reasons. Yet I expect there may be some relief in it for me as well, mostly at night - which are his worst times. I also miss the companionship, the intimacy and am always confused about what the best or right thing to do is - so you are not alone!
Hope to hear again from you - and best of luck!
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Gedmonson, Please don't go! I would like to say that I enjoyed reading about your story last night - again, it makes me feel not so alone. I imagine that there are many of us living with frustrations and anger in our own situations, that at times it comes out as if some are comparing who is better or worse off. I know that is not good for any of us! All of us here are trying to adapt to unexpected and many times awful situations - we need to be a resource to eachother. I don't know the person who responded to you or her situation, but I hope you stick around as I imagine there are many who could learn from you and hopefully you could learn from others. I too am a 40 (something) well-spouse, with young kids dealing with an ill spouse. While he does live with me, I dread the day that he will have to go to nursing care - for many reasons. Yet I expect there may be some relief in it for me as well, mostly at night - which are his worst times. I also miss the companionship, the intimacy and am always confused about what the best or right thing to do is - so you are not alone!
July 30, 2010 - 12:43pmHope to hear again from you - and best of luck!
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