I feel much less like a heartless deviant after reading your posts.
My husband has been fighting a very rare cancer of the sinus for the last 1 1/2. We have had to travel 1,000 miles for treatment at MD Anderson. He has had three surgeries, three months of radiation, spinal meningitis, chemo, and various other treatments. We thought he was out of the woods, and within a 8 week period his MRIs went from clear, to him having 3 major tumors on his brain. The doctors are stunned, and they have given him 6 - 9 months. We have a daughter who is nearly three who is amazing.
We have had some significant marital issues that I won't dive into, but we sought counseling and were doing well. His illness has been a whirlwind. He has been at death's door several times.
Illness has changed him. The man that I married seems to have died after his first reoccurrence, and when he found out that his cancer had come back a third time in less than two years he began to push me further and further away. We have been together for 10 years.
I take my marriage vows very seriously, and even when I found that my husband had lied to me repeatedly (about an issue that I'll not get into) I stood by him for the sake of our family. Recently I have recconected with my first love, and we have gone out to eat lunch several times over the last few months. I find myself smiling when I think of him. He makes me feel intresting, desirable, and appreciated. That is something I haven't gotten from my husband in a long time. I have done nothing more than lunch and a few phone calls, but I think of him often. At home I feel like a nurse, and an unappreciated one at that.
I haven't cheated on my spouse, but the days when I thought "What a horrible spouse would cheat on their dying wife/husband." are over. Sometimes the person you married dies long before they are overcome by their illness. I know.
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I feel much less like a heartless deviant after reading your posts.
My husband has been fighting a very rare cancer of the sinus for the last 1 1/2. We have had to travel 1,000 miles for treatment at MD Anderson. He has had three surgeries, three months of radiation, spinal meningitis, chemo, and various other treatments. We thought he was out of the woods, and within a 8 week period his MRIs went from clear, to him having 3 major tumors on his brain. The doctors are stunned, and they have given him 6 - 9 months. We have a daughter who is nearly three who is amazing.
We have had some significant marital issues that I won't dive into, but we sought counseling and were doing well. His illness has been a whirlwind. He has been at death's door several times.
Illness has changed him. The man that I married seems to have died after his first reoccurrence, and when he found out that his cancer had come back a third time in less than two years he began to push me further and further away. We have been together for 10 years.
I take my marriage vows very seriously, and even when I found that my husband had lied to me repeatedly (about an issue that I'll not get into) I stood by him for the sake of our family. Recently I have recconected with my first love, and we have gone out to eat lunch several times over the last few months. I find myself smiling when I think of him. He makes me feel intresting, desirable, and appreciated. That is something I haven't gotten from my husband in a long time. I have done nothing more than lunch and a few phone calls, but I think of him often. At home I feel like a nurse, and an unappreciated one at that.
I haven't cheated on my spouse, but the days when I thought "What a horrible spouse would cheat on their dying wife/husband." are over. Sometimes the person you married dies long before they are overcome by their illness. I know.
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